getting back with an ex, can it work?

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hi all,

Can anyone tell me stories about times you attempted to get back into a relationship with an ex? Can it work or is it just a waste of time? If it did work how long were you together before splitting up, and how long were you split up for before you got back together?

thank you

@thevangaurdsix - my gut has been telling me the reason he wanted this split is for other women but he has assured me over and over that isn't what he wants. Part of me beleives him, part of me doesnt. Don't appologise for being blunt - it's what i need to hear!

@hellsbellsmelons - deep down i feel this is the reason also. Maybe it would be easier for me to walk away if i knew there was a OW? I'm clinging on to any hope at the moment when i shouldn't.

@tomhardysnextwife - my gut is telling me he may have met someone else, if he has he's very good at making me beleive otherwise. He keeps saying he isnt doing this for other women, just that he needs time on his own.

I'd stop all contact, and try to fill your time. Join a gym, find a hobby, buy some nice treat toiletries and pamper yourself, find some good boxsets - anything that stops you thinking about it all the time. And make that time really nice for yourself. Meet friends you've not seen for ages, spend time with family.

@tomhardysnextwife - thank you for your advice, thats what i've been trying to do with my time, but this week i've very much been feeling sorry for myself sleeping a lot, not really leaving my bed other than for work. Going to try lift myself back up. x

I'd go out with friends and have fun.

@musti - Thank you i am going to try do that.

If he’s so desperate for space why is he invading yours? Why does his ‘needing space’ involve making sure you’re still on the hook? It’s a textbook case of ‘I don’t want to be with you but I can’t run the risk of you not wanting to be with me, so I’ll say just enough to keep you around but not enough that I can’t get out of in the future because ‘I didn’t make any promises’.

Unsubscribe from this head fuckery right now.

@agentjohnson - you are so right!

Damn straight I am! Girl, get yourself out of the house and have some fun.

He doesn't want you, but he doesn't want to let you go, just in case.
You're like his 'first reserve'. His 'spare'.

You deserve someone who does know what they want, and that is you.
A million times, you.
Tell him you'll give him 3 months space - then get yourself out there and be your best you.
Grow, enjoy, live, have fun.

@harpstrings - thank you for your reply, I’m going to try my best to have fun and think about myself however hard it may be, I do deserve better.