Shall I give a BF Another chance?

[iwunderwhy]

I spent a decade working abroad, built a company that I finally sold, moved to a new city and bought a flat outright with the proceeds. Started building a new set of friends, got on well with one woman in particular, we'd hang out, go to events etc. Eventually she came to my flat, I showed her around and things changed. "I wish i had your flat", a couple of weeks later became, "I need somewhere to stay, you have room, I'm going to stay at your place for a month hope that's ok". It wasn't and I ghosted her. 3 reasons; 1. because I worked hard for what I had and made loads of sacrifices - it wasn't a gift or a lottery win and I resented the attitude that I somehow didn't deserve it. 2. Because I generally believe you can't negotiate away jealousy once it enters a relationship. 3. I didn't want to fight about it. Fast fwd 3 yrs and today I got an email from her asking if we can be friends. I like her but my question: do I bother or am I asking for a repeat performance???

Trust your instincts

Delete, block, carry on

"I need somewhere to stay, you have room, I'm going to stay at your place for a month hope that's ok".

Bloody hell, that was presumptuous of her! As to her question of 'can we be friends' - no, not really. Friends do not behave that way.

But, I'm not comfortable with ghosting, so I'd probably respond to her email, saying that owing to her entitled attitude in the past, that she had the right to move into your flat and you had no right to say no, had shown you that she wasn't actually your friend and you'd prefer she didn't contact you again. I would leave her in no doubt that your previous friendship had foundered purely because of her attitude and behaviour.

And then block her.

How would you explain disappearing?

Have you missed her? If not don't respond.

Nah. Leave it. Good for you for not falling for it in the first place. Bury it unless you want to be disappointed again. I doubt she's changed.

Ghosting is a cowardly and pathetic thing to do.
Respond back via email saying you're sorry for ghoating but you think it's best you stay no contact.

Why would she want to be friends with you after you ghosted her. That's weird.

1.She wants somthing 2.You need to learn to end relationships like an adult

Don't reply. Block her and carry on with your life. The cheeky cow.

You both behaved very badly.

On balance, I think you probably behaved the worse of the two, but I might only think that because we know more about how you’ve behaved and your mindset.