Anyone else having to deal with exes new "sandwich short of a picnic" flozzy who hates their kids?

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Absolutely despise my ex husband, mainly because he lies to our teenagers about his life abroad. He's hauled up with a woman who is half his age, not the same nationality, barely speaks English, got herself pregnant as soon as they started dating (and whilst we were still married) and for the last two years she's caused havoc with my (what's left of) family.
From what I can see, she makes him were a wedding ring when she's with him, (yet I don't think they are actually married), however he pulls it off as soon as he lands at Heathrow to see our children.
She is obsessed with money and finds ways of splattering abuse all over the internet about our financial settlement (court ordered) as well as putting up fake posts of baby scans for all to see (they were lifted off an American doctors website ! LOL!).
This has been going on for 2 years now and despite her not having to work in the red light district (don't even go there !) anymore or live in a run down apartment, she is STILL not happy and is jealous of my every move... even looking at old photos of my 20 years of marriage and dissecting all parts of my "ugly, shit body" and asking my ex exactly how he proposed, where we wed, how much I earn, what my car is...?
Jesus.. please tell me that there is someone else out there who has to endure the wrath of the new nutter in her exes life !!!

FLOOOOZY !!! Typo !!!

why are you engaging with her at all? just blot her out

She didn’t get herself pregnant did she.

You sound overly invested in this woman you don’t know and would be better off giving a lot less head space.

If you’ve got problems with your ex then tackle them with him.

You don’t have a clue what he’s told her, she probably bought the same bullshit he fed as you did.

You haven't said how & why she hates your kids.
Ignore all her bloody bullshit! Be the better person

At least she lives abroad and you don't have to deal with her face to face! I don't know how you know what she puts up online? Where does she get the photos from? Just ignore. You got there first, you had DC, and you got a financial settlement that she doesn't approve of! I know who I'd rather be...

How did you find out she's asking all this about you?

@singlenotsingle you are correct. I definitely know who I'd rather be and to be honest, I think she got a great deal too, so why be so angry all the time instead of moving onto what she thought was her dream?

@worriedupstaisneighbour She used to send me abuse via all sorts of means and is now blocked but goes mental when the ex is over seeing our teens and just can't let him get on and enjoy the short time he has with them. She's forever asking him were he is, who he is with and making him take selfies to show he's not with me (not likely!).

The main point I was making was that I wondered if anyone else had problems with their exes new partners ?

No need to engage. Not sure how she is bothering you when she lives overseas

I mean this kindly - why are you posting about her/ thinking about her?

It sounds as if your ex is a dickhead who has chosen a suitable partner for his dickhead life.

What about you? Have you moved on? How is your job? Your social life? Tell us about your hobbies! Honestly, I think you are giving this woman power over you by even allowing her into your consciousness.

I guess she’s posting because it massively affects her life by proxy!
Anyone who has something that affects their kids is not allowed to post!!??

I can see that the likelihood of your kids loosing contact with him as they get older is highly likely.
At least when they are adults, you genuinely won’t have to have anything to do with her and him anymore.
Currently all you can do is not engage and grey rock.
I think there are a lot of people that have problems, but there isn’t much you can do.

He’s a weak man if he’s going to let someone ruin his relationship with his kids.

I don't see how her being a different nationality or not speaking good English (by the way, she makes him "wear" the ring, not "were") is on the same level of nastiness as her being abusive towards you. And just because she's not English doesn't mean she worked in a "red light district".

You did right to block her. Now forget her and move on in the happy knowledge that your ex-husband got what he deserves.

I would guess she's jealous of his past, as many women in her position are.

More fool him if he's under her thumb.

Well he met her when he was out under his own recognisance I assume - so that forms the basis of her ‘neediness’ re selfies etc. Proof of place. She doesn’t trust him and she should know ! She was probably there when he proved himself a proficient liar to you. She measures value in stuff - she wants to be equal in ‘materialist things’ I wouldn’t waste anymore time trying to understand her actions ‘cos you are not operating on the same wavelength. He is reaping what he sowed - lucky boy ! It’s a problem of his own fucked up creation.

*Materialistic