are you a narc?

[Clairetree1]

so many MNers seem to have relatives or partners they describe as narcissists, so it stands to reason quite a lot of people on here must be narc themselves.

Does anybody here recognise themselves as narcississtic? Or have been diagnosed with NPD?

No. My counsellor who I’m no longer treated by, said I had sociopathic tendencies. My brother has been told this too, but he “ scored “ much higher. He’s highly successful now. Can blag his way into anything. His temper, when he loses it, is terrifying. Neither of us is dangerous. It’s a scale, IMO. I wouldn’t share my inner thoughts on here though. And there are times I’m a bit, “wtf?” about things I read on here. I don’t understand how....soft people are. I can get being upset, things shake me, but I don’t understand the total emotional crippling that carries on for ages 🤷‍♀️ May name change now....

Well you're clearly soft enough to find your brother's temper terrifying!

I wonder if there are though. Would the come here for advice for instance when they know they know best.
There must be a few mind.

Far too many people label others as narcs.

In many cases you have a very selfish individual...probably with abusive, manipulative tendencies and they've met someone who they can treat poorly.

Usually because of their vulnerabilities, low confidence or poor self esteem.

I’m not aware how accurate my counsellor was. I don’t see it myself. Would I share some of my feelings about people and internal reactions to things? No. Because of this, I don’t know if they’re abnormal. I doubt anyone would share certain inner thoughts about many people/situations 🤷‍♀️ I also have a theory that huge chunks of the population don’t fit the “acceptable” social norm. Wouldn’t be so many victims of various crimes and upsetting experiences around if it was a rare phenomenon.

@freddyfasbear Do you think it would be worth asking for another assessment? It does seem a bit harsh that one person has left you spending you whole life wandering if your thoughts are "normal". What were their qualifications? Has anyone else ever said the same thing?

Although I agree with you, sociopaths are relatively common and unlikely to be dangerous

@Clairetree1 I’m not honestly bothered too much. I was initially told at 14 when I was referred for anger management. It cropped up again as an adult in counselling. I’ve had violent outbursts when younger ( not proud of this at all ) and my reactions to some things are I suppose not the social norm? But I’d rather not elaborate on this as it’s feelings I know to contain. I also don’t believe that everyone doesn’t think the way I do occasionally. My brother has had violent outbursts as well. He is a very good liar ( has served him well in his career ) and he’ll do things that raise eyebrows. He has left funerals etc to go out as it’s boring, let people down without any remorse. He’s also very charismatic and confident and very popular. There’s more going on with him though. He’s started having severe seizures out of the blue. He’s been asked back for a repeat of some brain scans. No idea what they think is there as yet.

I think I am...

How so user? Free to talk here.

I'm not, however I am very closely involved with a diagnosed psychopath, have a long term friend who is a diagnosed sociopath, and am more loosely connected with a diagnosed narcissist. I've got the whole dark triad in my life, god help me!