Would you be ok with this??

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NC. Broke up with emotionally abusive partner. He smokes cannabis. When we first got together i didn't know this and it's something that has progressed and is now a daily habit throughout the day. He is moody, lazy, mostly like to sleep and relax probably because he's stoned so not much conversation of an evening, he seems depressed. I think these are side effects from smoking and think he should quit. He says it's part of him and who he is. I feel a lot of our problems stemmed from this. He wants to be together but refuses to stop his daily habit. What would you do?

Find someone better. They won't change so don't waste your life waiting for it to happen or spend energy persuading them to change. Sorry. Just my experience.

Previous to meeting me my exh took drugs. He was a paranoid twat. .
Walk away op.
You deserve someone who finds being in your company enough of a buzz.

How can he work if he smokes that drug daily?

No I wouldn't put up with that, what would you be getting out of this relationship? Who wants to be with someone who is moody & lazy

Your answer is in the first line of your op. He's emotionally abusive

The only person a stoner is interesting to is another stoner. And then only vaguely interesting!

He's made his choice, being stoned is more important than your relationship.
Being stoned doesn't made a person emotionally abusive, so stop blaming the weed. It is entirely possible to be an emotionally abusive person who also happens to be a stoner.
Getting off drugs will not stop him being abusive. So he's done you a massive favour chosing the weed. Grab the chance of freedom and an abuse free life, and move on.

He tries to normalise it so iv been clouded in my judgement in the past. He's a grown man not some teenager so I don't understand it and why it's so important

I am definitely going to be moving on. The things he's said and done I could never forgive. I just hoped he would quit at least to be a better father

You seem to think that the problem in your relationship is the cannabis. It isn't. It's him.

And even if it was, what difference would it make? He has no interest in stopping, so it doesn't matter whether he's lazy, abusive and boring because of the weed, or just his personality.

But I reckon even if he did stop, he wouldn't magically transform into a brilliant husband and father.

I definitely don't blame the cannabis for everything. I do think the side effects made things worse but yes there would be problems without it. It just became a massive issue because of how much he ended up smoking. He normalised it so much it made me feel like I was strange for thinking it was a problem.

No, I would never date a heavy stoner.

It is him... the blow is just his crutch, but the habit and the choices that led to it are all him!

Like alcoholics you can't do anything to or for him. He has to do it all for himself. If I were you I'd leave now, save m/any more years wasted to his lifestyle choice.