sexless relationship

[compostcorner]

i am a 59 year old male, and i have been with my partner for 18 years, since she went through the menopause 10 years ago she has gone completely off sex, if a sex scene comes on the tele we have to switch over, needless to say we are in seperate bedrooms, and even cuddling her i feel a bit tense thinking shes hating this. the problem is the older i"m getting the more hornier i"m getting and its driving me mad, i"ve even looked at sex dating sites and expensive prostitutes but so far have resisted. my partner is a lovely girl and i do love her, so leaving her because of a lack of sex is not an option. has anyone else been through something similar and how did you deal with it.

If I were you I would explain to you wife that you have reached a point where you can no longer continue with things as they are. Therefore unless she is willing to have a proper conversation with you about how you may be able to reach some middle ground concerning your sex life, you will be leaving her as you no longer find this situation bearable.
Your current situation is clearly making you very unhappy, and life is too short for that.

O think with holding sex for any period of prolonged time incredibly selfish. If anybody here is not thinking about the other and doing just as they please, it's his wife!

Compostcorner cheating on your wife isn't a good idea. You need to do the honest thing and leave your wife first.

^so i tried the sex dating websites but no luck, the only people that replied wanted money, including a girl who tried to convince me to pay her £350 air fare in return for a bj.^

This is a scam of course, but even if you could find a legitimate "sugar baby" (which is what this sounds like) you probably don't make enough money.

^the escort thing is something i probably wont do, the local ones to me i"ve seen on the internet are so pretty i think i might just freeze.^

I don't think the whole paying for sex option will work for you. Which is to your credit! There are plenty of ladies close to your own age who are still interested in sex you could develop a relationship with. You need to divorce your wife first though.

^O think with holding sex for any period of prolonged time incredibly selfish. ^

Sometimes people just lose their libido and there's not much they can do about it except to let their partner go.