Hi folks,
History...
I'm the guy...! I'm 50 though pass for 40...lucky me! She's 36 and fit as...!
I'll use "she" for my gorgeous wife, please don't take this as illmannered… its purely for speed as I'll probably ramble a little.I love her with all my heart, she is my world, my life... I would gladly lay down and die for her rather than see her hurt in any way.
I've been married for 7yrs, together for 12...
We've been through years of hell with various crap but always been there for each other.
Overshading us has always been her parents and we've lived through almost everything they've thrown at us to split us up. We always have a good time when we're together , we're soulmates.. although the last year or so its gotten a bit stale.
At the start of this year we finally moved away from her parents evilness for a fresh start for us. To build our castle, fulfil dreams, make babies etc.
However for work reasons shes had to work away during the week while ive kept house etc.She comes home to us (two dogs and I) every Friday eve til sunday eve.
In April she admitted that she had to distant herself from home because she was missing us and had an affair.
We talked things through and would give it another try.
She told me 2wks ago that she'd met someone else and thought we should split.
Last week she had a week at home with me and on weds I found two txts.
From him...
"The thought of him inside you makes me sick t my stomach..."
From her...
"I don't want to share you with anyone either (i mean your wife...) and look forward to spending every night with you. I love you.."
It transpires he has 2 kids, 4yrs and 1yr as well as being married.
I kinda understand being away from each other is tough and that perhaps if our roles were reversed I may have done a similar thing.
This guy is feeding her every line to get into her pants. I told her this and maybe shes listening but still says she wants to split up. He hadn't contacted her for a week since I found the txts and she told him to block my no. in case I tried to call him. Today she told me he'd txt and just said he had to lay low after getting her txt... she didn't reply.. though I think she will.
She thinks shes done to much to screw our relationship and wants a break...
I'm a sucker, I love her... I'm really at breaking point and said that i'd give her another chance... her work contract ends at the end of this month and she''ll either stay where she is or go further away.
Should I let her go or carry on fighting?