I have this friend, Dave. We dated a good few years ago but it never went anywhere. Every now and the he would stay at mine after a night out. Nothing would really happen just a kiss and cuddle.
Anyway, i then started seeing my babies dad who is a friend of Dave. In the very early stages of ‘seeing’ babies dad, Dave stayed over at mine. Nothing happened apart from a kiss which I stopped as felt disloyal. I will say that I had literally been speaking to babies dad for a week at this point so I don’t even feel that I was seeing him.
Fast forward to now. I’m no longer with babies dad and every time I go out with friends I end up spending most of my time with Dave. I like him. On Friday, after a few drinks I told him and he said he was annoyed that I was ‘seeing’ babies dad when he stayed over. I get it, it’s awkward being friends.
Now he’s saying he doesn’t want to talk about us but I’m getting serious mixed messages. I’m not sure why he won’t give it a go and is now using this as a ‘reason’.
I really want to not care but it seems so unfinished and I see Dave a lot (mutual friends).
Any advice? I’m thinking of msging him saying that we need to stop and need to distance ourselves.
I feel like such an idiot.