Pregnant in bad relationship

[Emmab91]

My relationship seems to just be one thing after another. Here's me 8 months pregnant. My partner has been out all night and he won't answer his phone even though he has seen my messages. Says he fell asleep in his friends and now he doesn't want to answer because he doesn't want to have an argument in someone else's home. My heads doing over time how he won't just answer his phone to me. What if I really needed him last night and he was to drunk/passed out! If the shoe was on the other foot and it was me who stayed out all night and never answered my phone I would be all the horrible names under the sun! I guess I'm just writing here because I need someone to talk to. I want to just disappear or for him to so I don't need to deal with the constant stress! I feel all I have been doing is crying and feeling sad. I'm not getting to enjoy my pregnancy.

Do you have anyone to talk to in RL? I wouldn't put up with that kind of behaviour. Especially if it wasn't a one off. Do you want to stay in the relationship?

What is rl? No I feel a bit trapped being heavily pregnant my emotions are everywhere. I'm sad in the relationship and I'm gonna be sad if I leave him just now. The thought of being pregnant, single and giving birth without my partner there is depressing and even having a newborn doing it myself. I don't know what to do but I do know if I keep putting up with his behaviour he's going to keep doing it and thinking he can get away with it. I just don't feel very strong right now. I never put up with it before from him he would give me all the apologies. Now I'm pregnant I don't even get that, I think he knows he's got me where he wants me.

Seems to me that you'll still be doing everything alone even if you stay with him. Do yourself and your child the best favor ever and get rid of this twat. It seems daunting now, but you will be so glad you did.

RL= real life.
It sounds like you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. You have to ask yourself if he will change? It sounds like you don't want to leave but you could be raising a child alone anyway if he keeps nicking off.

RL is real life. Do you have anyone you can talk to? Even your midwife? They’re not just there for pregnancy matters.

TBH, if he can’t handle stuff now and ignores you then it will only get a damn site harder when a demanding newborn arrives.

Do you have family to support you or talk to or stay with?

What is your housing situation? Living together?

Sorry your having a shitty time when it's meant to be a really happy time! New arrival will put things into perspective. You'll be so busy with a newborn you won't have time and effort to chase him into his responsibilities.