Recovering from the fallout

[Bloodyfucksake]

I had a thread on here recently about my husbands other woman contacting me.
I recieved so much advice and support from mumsnetters and I really appreciated it. I really needed it.
Ducks in a row. Going to talk on Thursday next week.
While I've held it together and focused on giving my kids a wonderful summer holiday, I've over eaten and over drunk every day. Pilled on the pounds. Its horrible. The kids go to bed and I just start eating. Drinking a bottle of wine a night.
I look terrible.
Today it stops. I need your support again please. Help me give up my crutch. Greed isn't working for me.

Good for you. Draw a line under it all.

Get a load of tasty, healthy snacks in - so if you do want to eat, you can. I like celery and red pepper in low fat hummus as a binge food when trying to be healthy.

Go for a long walk. Don't have to go fast or even with any purpose. But get outside and walk somewhere.

Ditch the wine, but swap for a 'fancy' low calorie drink. Soda water, lime cordial and lime wedge is nice and refreshing. Or flavoured sparkling water.

When I'm really good, I'll write down everything that passes my lips.

Other ways to treat yourself without eating or buying anything: https://www.yesandyes.org/2015/10/rewards-that-arent-food-or-shopping.html

Also, hanging out on Mumsnet is a good way to pass the time.

Good luck

Also, listen to this for motivation/inspiration. Not everyone's cup of tea, but I like it.

Wonderful thanks. I might be back on here at 8.30 tonight clicking that link on repeat.

I found the structure of SW helpful but it depends if this is just a reaction to the current situation or longer term habits you need help with.

Dropping alcohol is the easiest way to ditch calories and, if you find you’re “having” to pick at things, then I find grapes satisfy the sweet craving (I’ve got a really sweet tooth). Lots of zero fat yoghurt too, and Halo Top isn’t bad for a quick ice cream fix.

Are you able to get out of the house in the evenings for a longish walk? Stops the snacking and I found it helpful in terms of clearing my mind and in sleeping well too.

Perhaps take up a hobby like knitting or embroidery that you can do instead of picking op.
There are some wicked cushion embroidery/cross stitch kits that
sum up in delicate embroidered verse these crappy stbx shits.

Ditch the wine for a nice cool fizzy lemon in a wine glass, worked for me! Also take a look at slimming world deserts online, I've made some crack stuff with no fat natural yogurt mini meringues and berries. Don't be frightened to have the odd treat though, god know you deserve it. To kick the boredom a little download a workout app, do this when the kids go to bed 🙌

Also, slice up banana and put in freezer. Really, really nice.

I've got the opposite advice

Personally I have found a high fat, low carb diet really takes away my desire for alcohol, and I heard that they are trialling it in some rehab clinics. Cheese, eggs, avocado, celery with peanut butter, raspberries and cream, lots of veg cooked with butter or cheese, bacon, smoked salmon... It really made me feel full, indulged, and I lost weight and didn't want to drink.

We all find our own way that works for us, and it's always good to know there are alternatives if one approach doesn't seem to work for you. Good luck.

Thanks for all the advice. I just want to achieve one night without wine tonight and then I will start the food moderation tomorrow.
I don't have the patience for cross stitch but I might look it up. Could do some swear words or something.