help with new relationship and children finding it hard

[tobias123]

Hi there I am in a new realtionship, the old one was for 13 years. I ahve ben single just over a month and had no intention on naybody coming into my life. I have fallen for a neighbour big time and things are progressing a bit fast but love it. I have two teenage daughters and a son of 5. My new man has a son 8 and his wife died when child was 3. The problem is the boy has been left to do his own thing as his fathger is not a hands on father as he thinks he has been depressed etc. My son is a bit funny and winds him up a bit as he has a girlfreind but this boy kicks my son and i mean hard. It has happened twice now and my son now has a bruised ear. I have discussed this with my new man and he just does not know what to do has anybody any suggestions at all.

Oh also I am well educated and value children and family life and while this man has not in the past he loves doing things ie we wnet a walk in the country and kids loved it, we went to cineam and piza hut and kids loved it. He had never been to pizza hut in his life.

I am falling in love with man and know I am as miss him when do not see etc but I have still got to think of my family and my children and they want to see their mum on their own..

well enough said but any help comments appreciated as i feel upste as no way my son is getting kicked. I ahve told the boy to tell me if my son winds him up but at 5 they do not think like an adult do they?

bump anybody help

If you have only been single for just over a month, perhaps you need a bit more time to adjust?
I expect your children certainly do.
If you and this man want to have a relationship, perhaps you should just see each other for now, and not expect your two families to combine at this stage.

I think HC is right.....in the nicest possible way, just have a bit of time for you and your family........see the guy by all means but wouldnt go merging families just yet. Dont mean this in an offensive way, am telling you only what i would tell a friend

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i think you are rushing into things,sorry.i know you are probably getting carried away in the moment,and that's fine,but you need to keep it between you two and not involve the children.it's a lot for them to cope with,especially his son as it's sounds like they have been alone together a long time.

didn't you post recently saying that your teenagers were upsetting his son and that he didn't want to create a situation where his son was being upset?