Are you happy with how much effort with your kids your dp/dh puts in...

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I thought having a family with some one wasn't going back in time when the dad does all the work and the mum stays at home. When he is around he does not willingly want or try very hard to look after the kids. Will not dicipline ets either. I know a lot of men in my richer circle of friends that are the same. But sll the people on our salaries etc the partners are keen and do not forget how to look after there children..

well, we only have DS so far, but DP is a hands on Dad. He changes nappies and gets up with him in the morning. He likes playing with him, which is lovely to watch. His own father wasn't a hands on, playful Dad, so i'm relieved that he's the opposite. I think they're going to have loads of fun together as he grows up.

If you're not happy, have you brought it up with your DP/DH?

Playball, absolutely sodding normal I'm afriad. DH will reluctantly give me an hour to do the housework while he plays with DD and talking doesn't help because basically he's just clueless with what to do with DD at her age, I'm sure when she gets a bit older he'll be great with her but because he can't talk to her, he just feels like she's just bored of him in twenty seconds.

Praising him helped though - he is now brave enough to have her for an hour or so.

Hes fabulous,

plays with thme, takes them out kiteflying, model airoplane flying, park ect.

cleans up after them,

sorts them out after dinner

baths them

hes wonderful

Dh is great. I get up with the youngest cos he is bf still, but Dh gets up with the other two n the morning, and overnight if needed. This week he has been making cakes with them and been great at distracting the eldest who has Chicken pox. I will be lost when he goes to work again next week

Yup...my DH works away through the week, and when he comes home at weekends, I'm pretty much off duty till Monday morning. He gets up at 6:30, than makes me tea and toast in bed, he takes DS out to give me some rest (now very heavily PG) and does the whole bath bed story routine, even after a sleepless night being kept awake by me tossing and turning all night.

They do things like build dens in the garden and make things in the shed. He's fab.

Sorry yours is a bit lax with your DCs...for some men its how they were brought up and they see it as the norm...you should sit and talk to him about it, your kids are missing out on his time and effort too!

dh gets up pretty much every morning with ds and does bathtime most nights. plays with him much better than I do and is generally patient and totally hands on. when ds was born dh did all nappy changing for first ten days.

I think dh is amazingly fabulous, but also, we talked about all of this before we got pregnant. I think that it has, like everything, to be communicated about (sorry grammar pedants...that was AWFUL!)

Yes he said he would do all the things most of you said yours do but doesnt. He has the worst memory i have ever seen in a person about every day life. Just not really interested wgich makes me feel as though i do not want to be with him as i have to do,think,correct, remember.He knows he just walks out of the room. I hace told him many times it beeds to change other wise i will take the kids but he still doesn't do anything. The house is mine so he will not leace.