Ex or new man??

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I need some serious help 😩
To try and cut a long story short..
I was with my partner for 7 years, we was due to get married this year and we have a two year old together. We’ve had our ups and down throughout our relationship, he wasn’t a bad partner, we very rarely argued, he let me do as I please, he was never demanding or asked me for anything he let me get on with day to day life.
He is very emotionaless and this has always been a downfall where I have struggled. He would never touch me, never so much as give me a kiss, seemed repulsed at the thought of touching me. We never sat together and cuddled there seemed to be no physical attraction for him towards me, although I was still attracted to him. Daily I was just in the house to do all the jobs, he went to work he came back he sat on his phone and then went to bed.
Although we hardly communicated at all, we still took our little girl out and she never wants for nothing.
Three months ago another man randomly walked into my life and I fell head over heels for him. He had just come out of a 3 year relationship, but she has no bad words to say about him at all. He treat me like a princess and unlike my partner was very emotional and I felt like he filled a void that I never new I was missing.
I realised I couldn’t walk down the isle to my partner and I called things off. He didn’t seem fazed. He packed his things and left, showing me nothing at all.
Things have progress with the other man over three months, we have met each other’s kids, and he treats me perfectly.
I never missed my partner as I felt there was nothing to miss.

However three months down the line and I find out my partner is seeing someone new a girl from the village. And I find myself getting very jealous. I’ve found myself talking to him more and spending time with him more. He’s promised me everything I wanted when we was together. I do want to be a real family with my daughter dad. Although he showed me no emotion I do believe he loves me and when he says forever I believe him.

I have made my feelings clear to the other man who is broken 😪

I’m torn between the two I really am. And I know this is 100% selfish I find myself asking so I chose the easiest option, with stability with my daughter dad.
Or so I continue with the other man who turned my head who I fell madly in love with who I wanted to marry and have children with?

Helpppp

Based on what you've written, I'd say don't choose either man.

I feel sorry for your new man, he sounds like the better option but you've treated him horribly. Your ex will just go back to the way you were before once you're back together imo

If I were in your position I would probably decide on neither. I've always been a great believer in taking time out after a relationship break-up to find myself again, allow things to settle and take time to decide on what happens next.

I think what you are doing is awful and you need to probably date no one for a while.

You only want your ex because someone else has him. You now don't want the new man who has made it clear how he feels.

You need to stop with 'wanting what you can't have'.

If you got back with your ex, you will want the new man again. Your ex is not available and yes he might still love you, that doesn't mean he will come running and drop his girlfriend because you click your fingers.

You need to sort yourself out first.

You deserve better than either of them