Him not knowing at six months isnt an issue as such. Six months isnt very long. You should only really just be coming out of some sort of honeymoon phase. Do you have sex every time on these weekly visits? If so is this mainly focussed on him getting off?
Id suspect he is using you for sex if so and just leave it.
Ive been seeing my bf for nearly a year. He cant even articulate the fact im his girlfriend in a normal way. Considering the absolute trainwrecks our lives have been over the last year, i understand it and i tend to judge him on his actions and behaviour rather than his words. He spends a lot of time with me and when hes lacking the capability to express his feelings verbally, he tends to make extra effort at the things he is good at.
We dont just have sex and the sex we do have is not focussed on him getting off and hes veery responsive to me emotionally that way too.
We both struggle a bit with going out and doing normal couple things at the moment. Hes also gone on a diet so i dont like reminding him of that by suggesting anywhere to eat incase as he can be really sensitive about his body when he doesnt feel right so i dont like reminding him.
But we have been looking into new hobbies and stuff to do. Which although we are both capable of doing these things alone, i see as investing time and money into experiences together.
Memories have always been a big thing for him. I dont think hed involve me in something he was serious about if he thought his memories of it would be tarnished, or that every time he looked at the equipment, clothes or went to it hed be reminded of me and any pain associated with me.
He has also made quite big changes in order to keep me in his life. One of them being that he removed two highly manipulative,abusive and controlling peoples power from them. Which was a massive step as hed never done anything about it before.
He works on his issues too and makes noticable improvements that he seems to sustain. Not just putting on an act and changing over night temoorarily and not being able to keep it up.
Not all relationships start out perfect, its normal to wonder where you stand if youre with someone who doesnt know themselves. People are rarely truely black and white. Its normal to struggle with that fact. But look at the bigger picture and youll find your answers.