Dealing with your narc mother with your children

[mintich]

Following on from the narc mother thread, I wondered how people cope who are now mothers themselves.
I went for lunch with my parents and my niece yesterday and my mum was her usual argumentative attention seeking self.
My niece is 12 and seems completely desensitised to how she is. She has had abuse hurled at her through the years for no reason.
I was looking at my 15 month old (who she ignored the whole time) and thought I don't want her to go through all this.
At the same time I would find it hard to go NC (as many daughters of narcissists do)
So how do you protect them?

I protected dd by going NC with my mum.

It was a combination of a thread on here with a lot of people telling me I had to put dd first and safeguard her and my brother saying the same. I do understand it’s difficult.

I never told her what I was doing. My brother saved me the trouble by having an argument with her and saying that even I was sick of her and didn’t want to see her again. She just never rang me again.

My dad is dead but they were divorced anyway.