I 'm separated and living in same house with ex .We are doing this for practical and financial reasons .
Im completely open with him-told him about my dates etc. I discuss every move with him because i think we owe it to each other .We were married for a long time until he had an affair which he only finished when I found out about it .
I looked at his phone recently when it went off- this is something I wouldnt normally do- only to find that he is being offered alternative accomodation by another woman . I asked him about this because as far as I new we had decided after a lot of talking to carry on as we are giving each other privacy . We get on fairly well usually .We have children and grandchildren nearby. We go on holiday together etc.
I feel he is still being very secretive with me . Im completely open about things with him . I once again feel let down . Im happy with what he decides to do but had no idea he was discussing getting a room to live separately with other people. I dont mind if he does but feel that he isnt transparent about what he his doing .