Honest opinion

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Right ladies (or gentleman)

I am curious about what people think about other women/men using your partner as a shoulder to cry on.

I have had bad luck with partners in the past so I know it is giving me a more negative outlook on the situation, but I do think it can get a bit uncomfortable. I think in some cases I can't help think the girl is just being a bit of an attention seeker. The whole damsel in distress routine etc, I know I'm probably going to get torn apart with this, but I am aware its a very pessimistic way of looking at things. I have girl friends that think the same way so I was just wondering what the general opinion was...

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I don't know, it's not a black and white answer, it depends really on the situation and the person

He really panicked when I realized he was texting a girl and tried to make out I was seeing things. the typical insults came out that I was a psycho that wouldn't let him have friends, he apologized and said he panicked because e knew he had been in the wrong, but his overall reaction is because he's scared that I wont let him have friends and he had to keep it secret from me
This would bother me more than anything you put in the OP. Him treating you like some jealous little woman and accusing you of not allowing you to have friends for no reason (I have an ex who used to say shit like that, he was a cheater just saying.....)

From your first OP I would not be bothered, DH does this, he is senior in a strong female workforce, regularly gets cried on. However your later post raises so many more issues. Not telling you, the reason for hiding it is YOUR fault not his, insulting you. Nope, tell him to FO

My H did this with someone who worked for us, it was her initiating but he responded , he didn’t tell me she was doing it all the time and was deleting, thing was I gotcwind, monitored and could see the messages, nothing of note but chit chat, the thing that pissed me off was the hiding it and lying about it, because if he had just mentioned it, I would have had words with her to cool it . Men sometimes are their own worst enemies . OP, I would just keep your antenna up and tell him to cool it off

IME women who seek out large amounts of support from men like this are after something.

Ive had someone do ot with my bf... A longstanding friend and almost in law at that which really broke his trust and upset him. But he actively worked on boundaries, madr his feelings clear, when this didnt work he severely limited his time with her. She kicked off. He cut her out and hasnt spoken to her since.

IMO your OH is up to something. For me while i knew she was, i could also see he wasnt encouraging it. Hes never hidden things from me. Your OH is hiding things and being dodgy.

I don’t want to generalise but my ex did this and shagged every one of them - except those who turned him down! Keep a close eye.