Trying to make things better with OH and some woman keeps trying to put doubt in my mind

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So weve been together just over 3.5years, our daughter is turning 3 in a couple months and im currently pregnant.

At the start of the relationship we had some issues surrounding porn and stuff but never any actual women, no texts, no staying out late like nothing at all that would be any actual worry.

He works in care and does 12 hour shifts 5 days a week, he ended up having a rough time at work and became really stressed which ultimately triggered depression and anxiety. He went undiagnosed and untreated for a year.

With all the stress of being pregnant, then buying a house and our daughter being tested for learning difficulties we have drifted apart a bit. Our focus has been on our daughter for almost all of our relationship.

I asked on an app if it would be worth us going on dates together again and starting to get to know each other again to get things rolling again and a woman will not stop trying to tell me that he's probably cheating .
I've never really had this concern as he's always either at work or home, he's hardly on his phone, he hasn't changed the way he is toward me at all- he kisses me every morning he leaves for work, he tells me he loves me constantly, he's the one wanting cuddles and to hold hands, he does all the same things he has for almost 4 years.

I have become more distant and not been wanting all the affection during the day, most of the time because I'm too flustered and tired chasing DD but I do always make time for him at the end of the day .
Theres things he does that annoy me and he does get in funny moods where he starts acting childish but its calmed since he started his medication.

So everythings started looking up a bit and now my stupid brain is questioning it all because some woman said her husband cheated despite working 12 hours a day and not seeming to go out much.
I dont want to make everything bad again by interrogating him, but im going to end up not trusting him for no reason ... i know this seems stupid but my head is spinning.

Quite honestly, as much as I love this site, i read all the 'is he cheating' posts and sometimes cimvimce myself that my dp Must be having an affair as everyone else's husbands seem to be and they so it with such ease and lie through their teeth! However, think about it rationally, do you trust your partner? Is he acting in ANY way that would give rise to your suspicions? If not, don't let one woman (who could be bitter from her own experience, or even worse, a troll who enjoys upsetting people) ruin your relationship. Keep on out to g the effort I and be glad glad you recognised you were drifting and have taken steps to get close again . Best of luck x

Good grief, I typed that so fast on my phone (should be packing so just putting that off!) here it is again in English!!!

Quite honestly, as much as I love this site, I read all the 'is he cheating' posts and sometimes convince myself that my dp MUST be having an affair as everyone else's husbands seem to be, and they do it with such ease and lie through their teeth! However, think about it rationally, do you trust your partner? Is he acting in ANY way that would give rise to your suspicions? If not, don't let one woman (who could be bitter from her own experience, or even worse, a troll who enjoys upsetting people) ruin your relationship. Keep on putting in the effort and be thankful you recognised you were drifting and have taken steps to get close again . Best of luck x

I'm going to tell you off a bit OP, mainly because I've been guilty of this and have learnt the error of my ways. Do not let other people (especially online) get in your head and project their own shit onto a relationship they know nothing about. Judge your DH on his actions and behaviour and don't let others make you doubt what you see with your own eyes.

People who know you really well, close people who love you might, just might have the right to comment if they can see things you can't, but some random off a forum who knows fuck all about you or your DH? No, they don't know him and have no right to put doubt in your head when you have none in RL, stop letting them.

So weve been together just over 3.5years, our daughter is turning 3 in a couple months

Did you fall pregnant literally immediately? As in thr week you met him?

It seems you've not really had time to have a relationship just the two of you. So dates seem a good idea. Especially if baby no 2 on the way.

Ignore the woman. She knows nothing.

Thank you
He's not showing any signs that hes cheating, there was a couple weeks where we weren't intimate but it was right when he started taking his medication and his mood was severely low so i honestly wouldn't have expected anything else.

I did get pregnant within the first month of us being together,it moved pretty fast.

I ended up having a dream he cheated last night, in my dream he told me he had only slept with her 😂

I spoke to him about my dream and everything, he basically said I'm ridiculous because why would he try for another baby for 2 years, buy us a house and risk losing everything when he's happy as we are.
I think ill trust him over a sour woman.

I think you should yes. And the dream is just because it's on your mind.

The dreams I had about my dh cheating when I was pregnant were so real and awful. They shook me up for days. That was before the internet and forums. I'd hate to imagine how vivid they'd have been if I'd been told that he was probably having an affair.

Like your oh, mine has remained trustworthy and lovely. Lots cheat. But lots don't. I always view it like negatuve reviews on a product, operation, both control etc. Those who have had a bad time or experience always shout the loudest. The ones who get on well or the item suits them go off and live their lives happily and conclave a positive review. Basically the reviews are skewed and not a true representation.

One thing that will certainly donyiyr relationship harm and push you apart is doubt and blame when there needs yo be home.

Some people like to cause trouble,
Some people like to always be right,
Some people like to play mind games,
Some people are men-haters.

Ignore the stranger on the internet, block her, she’s not doing you any good especially if your pregnant.

You see it on here as well, people trying to convince a poster that their partner is cheating when there’s not really any proof. Or people egging someone on to leave their partner or steal £100k from her partners bank account etc.

People can be very manipulative especially when there’s a group of them saying the same thing to someone vulnerable.