Is this just me or is this EA

[Confusedlife]

Hi all,

I have been wondering if I should post for a while I guess I just what to know that I am not going mad.

Me and DP have been together 9 years and

Sorry my phone just posted the first bit before I finished.

We have been together 9 years and in everything I have begun to notice she is not to blame for anything. The last time I said I was unhappy about her behavior it became that I was unfair for bringing it up and how I was just trying to make her feel rubbish. And this happens whenever I say something she doesn't agree with.

At the end of the argument she then said I am gaslighting her and ignoring her feelings so I shouldn't have brought it up. And now I just keep thinking I am the bad person and she must be right.

Sorry just needes to say it somewhere and get it out of my system

Taking what you've written at face-value, yes, it's a form of EA.

But really, at heart, it's simply childish and manipulative, and that's never a basis for a relationship, because communication will always be problematic.

The good news is that you have power here, in that you can choose to tolerate it, or you can leave. What you can't do is try to change someone who will not or cannot change.