Husband manipulating toddler?

[Whatdoidonow18]

Husband getting toddler ready to go to nursery, I'm ill so still in bed.

First he woke me up coming in with dd to get dressed and singing songs so I gave her a kiss and a cuddle. I complained about being woken up so he left.

5 minutes later they are ready to leave, I hear husband say quietly "Do you want to say Goodbye to mummy" Toddler says No
Husband says OK and goes to take her downstairs.

I called him out on it and he said I'd already said goodbye.

Dd is a real daddy's girl and I was starting to feel like it was because he's manipulating the situation and now I feel like this is proof.

Am I going crazy?

I don't say this lightly, but I bet you are hard work.

Do you have a fever? You sound a bit delirious.

Blimey. He got a row for waking you then you are cross because he left you in peace. Some people are hard work!

Yabu. You had a go at him for bringing DD in and waking you so he took her out, he checked DD didn't want to go in and say bye and so (assuming you were asleep/ill/Not wanting to be disturbed) he left you to it to take her to nursery.

Doesn't sound like he could have won either way.

eh?

Husband manipulating toddler ? What? You complained they came in and woke you and what-now you're complaining toddler didn't want to come back in and say goodbye ? And this is all husband being manipulative? Honestly 🙄

I think OP wanted her DH to insist after the "No"?

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But then OP wouldve shouted again for being woken up..so yeah it's a lose lose situation

Poor DH can't win in that situation! Talk about set up to fail!

I suspect we won't be hearing from OP again!

I think I may have misunderstood.
OP did you want DH to bring DD to say goodbye or not?

I’m not sure I understand. Do you think he was getting back at you by asking a question where he knew the answer would be ‘no’ and therefore hurtful to you? I’m not sure I see the manipulation of the child but it would be unkind if he is deliberately playing on your insecurities. For that to be true there must be a huge back story to this.

OP - having read your other thread, there is clearly a lot more to this. Are you Ok?

Blimey. If this is all you have to worry about or be upset by in life then how lucky are you. Seriously. Hugs non issue. Mountains out of molehills. Try and be normal and get some sleep and maybe go get some counselling if you really think this is a problem!