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Ghosting - What to do?

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AnaViaSalamanca · 06/08/2018 22:04

So in short, I seem to have been ghosted by a close friend whom I have known for over six years. We had been very close, my DP and her ex also knew each other, and the four of us hung out many times until her divorce a few years ago. We both have busy jobs so don't see each other often, and lately I have been a bit unwell so I haven't been available very much. Anyway, I have tried a few times over the past month to call/email/text and even send facebook messages, all these are read, but zero response. I have straight out asked what was going on, apologized for perceived slights, but no answer to anything. She does post on facebook and instagram quite regularly (and seems to be living her normal life, no disasters or anything) and follows me as well, and I haven;t been blocked, just completely ignored. I have been going through a spiral of weird emotions and don't know what to do. This was a friendship I cherished, and it's not like we had a fight or a fallout of any kind so I am not ready to just bin this relationship for no reason.

Anyone has had an experience like this? Why would anyone do this? I can't stop thinking and guessing. Is there any other thing I can do?

OP posts:
ABadIdea · 06/08/2018 22:06

Have you or your DP had contact with her ex at all?

AnaViaSalamanca · 06/08/2018 22:17

It ended badly between them, they are not in touch anymore, but it was a few years ago. We have mutual friends, and I asked them if she was OK, she apparently is!

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Lovethesun100 · 06/08/2018 22:34

Telephone her ?

Gretagumbo · 06/08/2018 22:42

I had a friend that did this. I still don’t know why. It was a complete mystery.

I’m reasonably inoffensive, we also had a good ability to talk things over in the case of offence.

Eventually I just had to let her go.

I wonder if it’s just because you are associated with her old life? Divorce does funny things - I painted my whole house white & threw out a 400 strong cd collection. I needed a blank canvas.

WhiteRabbit79 · 06/08/2018 22:46

I'm currently experiencing this. However I have my suspicions that my friend has got herself involved with a man who's quite controlling. And like another poster said myself and other friends of hers are ties to her old life. It hurts, but I've invested far too much time and energy into worrying and getting upset about it. Disconnecting from such a cherished friendship is hard work but I think for your own sanity, you need to x

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