My husband and I argue a lot, however I feel tonight's episode is way over stepping the mark.... As he refuses to talk about this sort of thing, do people think taking 'a relationship break/ holiday' is a good way to make DH consider his behaviour? Although unfortunately I don't think it will phase him as he's already said, there's the door leave, but I will fight to keep our child seeing as you earn nothing.
Can people suggest what they would do if the following happened? Little one is nearly two.
- message appears on my mobile phone
- we both read it's from the new tenant at the house we've just moved from, who I know, just asking where the gas meter is. DH says oh just tell her to ask the landlord, although as I told is my phone as a message to me I want to politely tell her it's outside the house.
- battle over the phone ensuses, because he wants to write a rude reply, ends up that DH cracks the phone screen, which I'll have to get repaired
- I send the message I want to send
- DH settles toddler
- I go up to check on them, and just to annoy me, he's decided to climb into the cot, yes you've read that correctly, and DD is amused but not sleeping, DH has decided he will sleep there until she's asleep or stay there if he feels like it.
. I am annoyed, saying can you please get out, picking little one out, he refuses, I sit her down with a bottle on our bed, he doesn't climb out for ages, I literally have to try and pull him out, doesn't work.
When he is out he starts shouting, so little one obviously doesn't like that, I am trying to keep her calm, he's just like, go on, put her in the bed then, now, just do it. Thank fully she was tired enough to be put straight back in. If she had been crying he wouldn't have let me take her back out and comfort her....
Now I am downstairs writing this on the sofa, thinking should I even publish this, but what should I do, I surely can't ignore this behaviour, he would leave me instantly without a doubt if I told anyone..... or if I was writing this it would be game over. Is the answer a relationship break? Don't want to leave completely because it does work fine when we are not arguing,, but this is just not ok to behave like this. He doesn't care if he breaks my things, iPad, phone, throw my bag out the door. I sometimes over react and say mean things but I do not break his things or climb into little ones bed!! Also he refuses to see relationship councillor....