Being led on

[Sharpandshineyteeth]

My DP of 4 years has done lots of minor shitty things. They all point to the fact that he doesn’t give a shit and lives with me for the easy life.

My question is this, shall I call him out on it and tell him that actually it’s emotionally abusive to tell me that he cares and then do things that show the opposite? This would be the best type of closure for me.

But shall I accept that he’s an immature dickhead who will always deny responsibility.

To check I’ve understood this correctly, option 2 is to spend your life with someone who doesn’t give a shit about you?...is that actually a question.
Call him out and if no change...bye!

If it's been like this for 4 years it's unlikely to change. You however can change your life whenever you want by deciding to leave

They are all minor, which makes it so difficult. He is good at excusing the shitty behaviour

Is your aim to get him to change? Have you previously raised these issues with him?

If you have and there's been no change...I personally wouldn't bother saying anything to him...apart from the relationship isn't working for you and you're ending it

Them discuss the practical arrangements of separating.

I think you should accept the fact he's an immature dickhead who will always deny responsibility, sure. Then what? By all means tell him what you think of him. What are your plans afterward?

There is no afterwards. I’d never have another boyfriend. I already have 5 DC. 4 with exh and one with him.

I would never bring anyone else back here ever. So I would be living alone for the foreseeable