We seem to have triggered something like a narcissistic rage in DB and SIL. It’s been going on for over a year now so we’ve decided there’s no chance of reconciliation and we want to go No Contact to protect our family from the behaviour that’s being directed our way. DB & SIL r currently giving us the silent treatment which should make this a lot easier. However, what do we do about family events? Do we blank them? Do we say hello to keep it polite but keep conversation minimal? How do we react if they are rude to us at a family event (things like blanking us or turning their backs on us when in a group, or subtly steering a group away from us, blanking our toddler when he talks to them). Bearing in mind they tend to stand right next to the rest of my immediate family it would be hard on us if we have to stand on the other side of the room on our own and wait for the family to come over (and what if they follow them over?). Or do we not go to family events that they r attending? That would be a shame for us really.
Also we have a family whatsapp group. I guess we need to leave that? How do we explain to family that we need a separate group without them?
Family r all on our side about how we’ve been treated but scared of rocking the boat and being on the receiving end of this treatment. We r not the first in the family to experience it and I guess we probably won’t be the last.
Does anyone have any experience of doing something like this that they could share? Did you have any issues with other family members? We get A LOT of pressure from the family to reconcile with DB & SIL even tho it’s all coming from their side and any attempts we make r knocked back immediately.
I know logically that this is the right thing to do now but I keep having the urge to try one more time to resolve it despite it opening us to more abuse each time. Does that sound familiar to anyone? Any advice at all really appreciated!!