Hello lovely peeps - first post and looking for some advice on a delicate situation.
My sister started dating her boyfriend about a year and a half ago. She ditched a lovely guy for a greasy metaller who rides a Harley Davidson bike and is a member of a Hell’s angel group. He’s ignorant, loud, obnoxious and worse of all racist.
You need more evidence well I have met him a half a dozen times each time he has drunk about 4-6 alcoholic drinks then driven my sister back on his bike. He also won’t keep his hands off her in public like she is property it makes all of us incomfortable. This bad behavior came to ahead at Christmas when my mother challenged him on his drinking. He shouted and and left taking my sister ( who hid during the exchange). He then drove her home rather than take a taxi. 3 days later she tells us she’s over three months pregnant.
I met up with my sister and her boyfriend and tried playing nice. I asked if they were going to get a car and he said no I want a new Harley Davidson and he did indeed buy a brand new one. My sister has now given birth and she has no mode off transport and lives out of town.
We want to see her as she’s just had the baby but we just can’t stand him. Even five minutes is too much as he deliberately goes out of his way to belch, fart or say inappropriate things so he can laugh at them.
As her brother I want to have a relationship with my nepthew but I think it’s half his and he’s always there! How can I handle this?