My partner (not married but together a long time with one kid) has just gone and splashed out on a new car that he will be paying £380 a month having already signed the contract without saying anything to me. He previously told me he had wanted the car however I said to him that we should wait and discuss it together... We both have cars but mine is an old banger that's not worth more than a grand and his is decent though he wanted to trade it in soon. I objected to the suggestion of a brand new car and said we should get a second hand one instead? I thought we were going to discuss this together but he's just gone and signed the contract without bothering to tell me... I know it's his money but to me it is still a big financial decision that affects us all as a family and I am angry and upset that he signed the contract without properly discussing it together first.. I feel as though I've been lied to almost. He says he works hard and deserves the new car because it would make him happy and is a car that he really likes...
Not too long ago he told me he was going to a festival with his friend for a weekend which was fine and I said have a good time etc.. Then he turns around and says that the festival is actually a week long as they are camping there. He booked time off his work for that when he started his new job and again didn't tell me after. I was mad because he did not bother to tell me anything even though it will be me looking after our kid while he goes on my own I would of thought he would have bothered to say something instead of blurting it out while we were having a meal with friends (this is when I found out that he was going 6 days instead of just the weekend).
On top of it all have just found out I'm pregnant and hormones are all over the place.. We both wanted another one but I would have wanted to save up money for the arrival of our child together (since babies cost) and he's just gone and splashed out on this car which annoyed me because I wanted to save money together as we are expecting and he was on board with TTC and knew that I could get pregnant any month and babies aren't exactly cheap? I would have said lets get a 2nd hand car and try to save up for baby on the way (he works full time and I part time but we're by no means rich)
AIBU to feel angry and upset that he doesn't bother to discuss things (which I consider important) with me before doing them ?