I am a part-time working Mother, also studying for my Masters at University, I have a 2 year old DD, I get to spend 3/4 days at home with DD and work other days and evenings to ensure we have a fruitful lifestyle.
My DH is a full time Director and also works very hard, he is a lovely father and spends as much time with his DD as possible. We both see friends and go out together where possible, so in that respect we have a healthy balanced lifestyle.
The problem has been with DH's job, he thinks he may be getting made redundant. He has been at this job for 6 months, prior to that he was somewhere 12 months roughly, prior to that 3 months and prior to that 2 years, I think you see where I am going with this.
A lot of the moving around, interviews, etc happened when I was pregnant, we had just moved house too, it was all VERY stressful. I am sure DH is getting very tired of all of this more so than what I am and I will fully support him no matter what he has to do, I just need somewhere where I can get this off my chest, because it is all really tough to keep dealing with.
He has a very high paid job and it is not easy to just get another one. We have a lot relying on his wage, the house, his car.....I wish he didn't have to have such flashy cars, watches etc, but he works so hard and he does deserve to have something to show for how hard he works, but I care less about those sorts of things and most of my money goes on DD.
We have a lot going on at the minute, DH's mother has recently been diagnosed with Dementia, she has also had 4 strokes and been told she needs to stop smoking, I have to arrange all of her appointments and who goes with her if I am unavailable, we are also trying to get her moved closer to us, but having a smokey flat, no one is biting. We have tried to help her stop smoking, but she won't, so that is a worry in itself. She is a lovely grandmother, but other than that she is a stubborn old lady who is very selfish.
I have high blood pressure and I am currently undergoing tests to see what the cause is, I am 30 years old and a size 6, I eat healthy and exercise where possible, most of the time I am running around after a 2 year old so it isn't to do with my physical health.
My Mum helps out with my DD when I am working, but I worry about putting on her too much because she has an Acoustic Neuroma, causing her to get tired easily, so I have arrange for DD to go to preschool for 2 mornings per week, costing an additional £200 per month, which I am funding. It doesn't sound a lot, but trying to juggle all of this and pay for additional things like this and fund my University etc, then to be told DH may be made redundant, I feel like it is all getting on top of me.
I know this isn't me taking the hit directly and understand that it is 2x more stressful for DH, but I do take on a lot to ensure he has less to deal with, such as taking his mothers calls for appointments etc. His job is very busy and fast paced, but I find that looking after this house, DD, my job, university, his Mum, my family, the dog and other bits and pieces is a lot of hard work too and we could just do without this happening again.