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To want to leave ?

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Redcrab101 · 06/08/2018 12:11

Hi I just want a bit of a vent really. I think I want to leave my partner.
It’s been coming for a while now but recently I’m thinking why do I bother?
He moved us over 3 hours away from my family. I had to give up my job that I loved. All for him and his amazing new career.

I hate where we live now my son hates the the school I have another baby and I’m so lonely. He works 12 hours a day and has now started doing sports 2 evenings a week and Saturday. He doesn’t do any house work unless I constantly get on at him. Doesn’t spend any time with the dc. Never helps with night feeds / Doctors apps/ general everyday day stuff etc . I’m starting to feel really depressed .

I have no life here no friends no good job prospects. But he is living the life of Riley.

I’m going to my mums for a week with the dc and feel like asking if she would help me move back to my hometown .

Sorry for the long post just needed to get it of my chest🙁

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Cricrichan · 06/08/2018 12:16

I wouldn't blame you!

Bekabeech · 06/08/2018 12:25

It sounds miserable. I'd be very tempted to just stay.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 06/08/2018 12:26

I think your plan to speak with your Mum about moving back is a good plan. Sounds quite miserable and lonely where you are.

Changedname3456 · 06/08/2018 12:33

I’m sure he won’t mind being over three hours away from his DC. Don’t spare it a second thought.

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Redcrab101 · 06/08/2018 12:50

I know it will be better for me but obviously I am worried about taking them away from their father . But at the same time he doesn’t see them all week as he goes to work before they get up and is back when they are in bed . And now he’s doing his own thing on a Saturday. So he only sees them half a day sat and full Sunday .

My ds misses he’s gran grandad auntie etc back home . It’s so hard but I don’t think I should have to stay somewhere me and my ds don’t like and now have no family to see

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pog100 · 06/08/2018 13:17

If he is that bothered about seeing his children @Changedname3456 perhaps he should have been spending a bit of time with them already. As the OP makes clear, she has given it a second thought but, rightly, feels totally unsupported by her husband.

EllenRipley · 06/08/2018 13:45

That sounds utterly crap for you. At the very least he is being thoughtless and completely selfish, but I'd be wondering just how committed he is to you and your family. Have a breather and try get a clear head at your mum's, decide whether this is worth discussing with him to give him a chance to change things. You're quite rightly miserable and that should matter to him! I hope it does. If a kick up the arse doesn't change him then I'd be making plans to be closer to friends and family permanently.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 06/08/2018 14:15

The more you explain how little involved he is in their life, I really think you need to do the right thing for YOU. And if that means moving back to your family then so be it. Honestly, he spends half a day a week with his kids!?!?! Awful.

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