Do I tell her?

[Sunflower579]

I've been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years, most of his friends, one way or another have cheated on their girlfriends. The other night my boyfriend went out with his friends and I was out with mine. His friends ended up leaving him so he came and met me.

He continued to say how the 2 friends he was with (one of them has a girlfriend) were talking to 2 girls, buying them drinks, getting them to dance, flirting etc and ended up going off with them leaving my boyfriend on his own. Towards the end of the night, he gets a voicemail left from his friend with the girlfriend, whose in a taxi with the girl shouting in the background.

Them being in the taxi together is the most that I know. In regards to whether they went home together or any physical activity went on, I don't know. However, I feel the way he was behaving in the bar with her is bad enough. Im not wondering whether or not to let his girlfriend know. I don't know he very well, we've only met 2 or 3 times but I keep thinking if it was the other way round I would want to know. I know it's not really my place to say and nothing could of happened between them other than a bit of flirting but I feel she deserves to know.
Any advice would be great. Thank you

No, I would stay out of it. Different if you were there first hand and seen something actually happen, but you're getting the story through your boyfriend. Okay you heard a girl in the background in a taxi with the guy, proves nothing. I would leave it alone.

I would stay out of it. If you knew for sure, maybe, but in the circumstances it is possible not much physical happened. I would want to know in her shoes, but as you dont know its a bit tricky. I guess you could tell her that her boyfriend was flirting and buying a girl drinks, but its probably not worth jeopardising your boyfriends relationship with his friend (maybe you if he feels like you betrayed his trust telling you) over that.

You weren't there. You don't have the facts.

Also, by divulging this half-story to her, you could end up causing a storm and falling out with your boyfriend for the sake of a woman you've met twice. Not worth it.

I also don't think you have enough evidence to go to this girl; even if she confronted him about this, he could just lie to her anyway? If this lovely chap is doing this quite often she might already have a feeling that something isn't right. You could think about getting to know her a bit more, or next time you are hanging out in the same place, turn the conversation round to infidelity and relationship worries and see if she gives anything away - then you'd be able to tell her your concerns?

I’d stay out of it; I can’t see a way that it ends well for you unfortunately.

I understand where you are coming from completely. Of course if you were being cheated on and someone else knew, you would want them to tell you, but what would she be able to do with the little information you have? It would probably just literally cause an argument, just for them to get back together? Also you don't want his friends to dislike you. Don't make it awkward for you and your man. Think of you xx