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How did i end up like this

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undertheweatherr · 06/08/2018 00:37

Soon to be divorced, no real friends to talk to, having to quit my job and move myself and my child back to parents house....
I don't know why I must have made so many bad decisions in my life to end up here. I feel like a failure and have so many regrets. I don't know how to make things better.

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MrsE87 · 06/08/2018 00:55

I didnt want to read and ignore... Im sorry your going through this.
Things will get better for you. Instead of looking back on the regrets you have in life. Take this as your fresh start let go of everything you have eating away at you and see this as the beginning of the new you!
Don't be so hard on yourself no one is perfect . You are not a failure just fell on hard times at the moment.. But it doesn't mean you can't pick yourself back up and make a better life for you and your child. Because it's fresh it's hard to see it but your time will come

Ills88 · 06/08/2018 01:10

Always remember "it's just a bad day, not a bad life".. You are going through some tough times but you will get there, maybe in a month or a year but you will get there..

cantfindamoniker · 06/08/2018 09:11

So sorry. It sounds really hard right now. No more judging yourself. We all make mistakes. It won't always feel this bad and things will change. One baby step at a time. 💐

undertheweatherr · 06/08/2018 10:10

Thank you for the kind words, it does really help. I suppose when you're in the midst of it all it's hard to see out the other side.

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MrsE87 · 06/08/2018 10:20

It is hard.. Just take it day by day and you will find your feet again Flowers

Sweepouttheashes · 06/08/2018 10:21

OP, sometimes everything does fall apart. It can happen more than once in your life as well - it has happened twice to me and i don’t rule out it happening again, although i try and make the best decisions i can at the time.
It does leave you feeling very low. I think it is a kind of grieving. Just feel the feelings, they will pass.
FWIW i have found these times to be a sort of clearing house, and then a new phase begins and brings new hopes, joys and opportunities. I am sure this will happen for you.
If you have made the wrong decisions for you (you might not have, sometimes things just go pear shaped anyway), try and reflect on your role in what has happened, and what you could do differently in the future. This helps put things in perspective -rather than beating yourself up, you extract the lesson and keep moving forward. Flowers

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