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To be sad about my ex

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Randomised112 · 05/08/2018 21:30

So long story short. He was emotionally abusive. If he ever did anything wrong it was some how my fault.. he twisted it to make me the crazy controlling girlfriend. Since the break up he's not been better. Worse if anything in the way he is. But it's less often as I avoid what I can In causing arguments. And just get on with it. He's said lots of hurtful things etc.. I tried for 2 years before I could no longer try with someone who didn't care about the relationship.

Now we have 2 young children. 2.5 & 1.

So I'm not sure if it because we have children and because I'm struggling as a single parent.. but I miss him.. am I crazy? Sometimes I just think I should let him do what he wants so I have company and the children have their dad here. And a "happy" family.

I've recently met someone who has expressed their interest. And I do like them and it may eventually (I'm not ready for someone new in my life yet!! For a couple years at least..) become something. But even this I feel guilty about.. like I'm cheating on my ex.

As far as I know he's not seeing or seen anyone. And he still says he loves me. And wants us to be together. He says he's trying to help make it work but when it comes to it he really doesn't show it. Well that's why we broke up he did everything against the relationship. Not anything to help it!

I do still love him in some ways. But after the past I'm not sure I could ever love him the same. Even if by some miracle he could change.

Am I crazy. Will this pass..?

OP posts:
Lovemusic33 · 05/08/2018 21:58

It will pass. Please don’t cave in and take him back, you deserve better.

I found it hard when I split with my ex, we had been together 12 years, I hated being in my own. It got easier and now I love being a single parent, yes I still get lonely occationally but I try and keep busy and I know my life is better without him.

Lwjd · 06/08/2018 00:15

How I feel like my husband is died but he’s not really he has abandoned me after 15 years Leven me to look after we’re kids why he goes off to have a new life my hart is broken I thought we had something special he was my best friend well so I thought till he said he doesn’t love me anymore I can’t seem to come to terms with it I miss him love him but can’t understand why he doesn’t love me anymore it hurts so much I just want to end my life but I can’t do that to my kids but that’s how I feel he won’t take to me apart from I would like to get the kids at this time I have begged him to come home told him how much I love him but nothing he just doesn’t reply to me my kids are hurting so much to I have a 4 year a old 9year old and a 11 year old everyone keeps telling me to forget him but how can I when I love him I can’t eat sleep or talk to anyone I just feel lost and sick to the bottom of my stomach

Lwjd · 06/08/2018 00:17

But this has just happened to me last week

lostpigeon · 06/08/2018 00:19

just give up relationships altogether like I have....and I mean 100% ....it's not worth it. And I do mean 100%, no flings, no ONS, nothing. So much easier and chilled without the worry of a other half!

Lwjd · 06/08/2018 00:26

He slept with the babysitter when I was pregnant with my little girl I forgave him everything was ok for a while but then he fell out with me and said he wasn’t happy and he didn’t love me he come back and said sorry but my dad just past away so I forgive him again I have 2 older boy to my first husband that left me for a other woman one is 18 and the other is 17 but my husband just now just can’t get on with my oldest son told me to choose between them

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