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Just ended a toxic relationship... feel quite sad

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SlightAggrandising · 05/08/2018 14:38

Sadder than I was expecting. It's been on the rocks for months, but it's properly over & finished now. He's totally blocked me on his phone, which is fine but it's made me sad and I wasn't expecting it to Sad

What's up with me?

He was so fucking handsome as well.

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Frosty6611 · 05/08/2018 14:41

Break ups are always horrendous. Even when we know they aren’t the right person for us. It’s almost like a form of grief suddenly not having someone in your life anymore who used to play a big part. I’ve literally felt like i’d die during previous break ups, and I also never thought i’d find anyone better. I’m now with someone far more handsome and lovely than any of my ex’s.
Try keep yourself busy for the next week or two until things feel a bit less raw

SunflowerJo08 · 05/08/2018 14:42

The toxic ones usually are the most handsome! Write a list of the positives of being single. You don't need rockiness that lasts for months, it's a waste of time and make up.

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SlightAggrandising · 05/08/2018 14:42

Thanks Frosty

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SlightAggrandising · 05/08/2018 15:01

sunflower true true true.

Distraction is the way.

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Awoof · 05/08/2018 15:05

I'm going to be in your position very soon OP. Big sympathies for you. Can I ask what it is that finally did it for you?

Rebecca36 · 05/08/2018 15:05

It's a bit like grieving. Very sad but you will get over it and remember the good times as well as realising the right decision was made.

Onwards and upwards!

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SlightAggrandising · 05/08/2018 16:09

AWoof he sent me something shitty in a message so I told him it was over... we didn't speak for nearly a month, then we got back in touch 🙄. We're moving to different countries for work & today was the last chance to see each other before that. He didn't want to come so it needed putting to bed ASAP... he just said "I'm not going to contact you again" & blocked me.

He's said that before but never blocked me so this is it now.

Onwards and upwards and overseas

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Backtoblack1 · 05/08/2018 16:17

I ended my toxic ‘relationship’ 5 days ago. I’ve mananged to get to 12 days in the past then I either give in or contact him. I really don’t want to this time. I’m not missing him at all. I just feel lonely I suppose and like I won’t meet anyone else

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SlightAggrandising · 05/08/2018 16:25

Hang in there Backtoblack

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twilightsaga · 05/08/2018 16:33

Same here. Exact same. He is very handsome too Confused

Awoof · 05/08/2018 16:35

That's how I feel. He has ramped up some shitty behaviours in the last 6 months. Nothing dramatic, big big red flags non the less. I just don't see him being part of my future any more.
Sending Flowers to you both

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