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I'm so unhappy but have no way out

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loosst · 04/08/2018 23:52

I've been with DH for 14 years and we have one DS who is 5.

Our marriage feels like a sham and I don't see a way out.
DH and I no longer share a bed due to his snoring and we haven't had sex in about a year. We hardly communicate and I feel like we are housemates rather than a couple.
There is no abuse. He is a good man but we have lost our way.

DH is very closed off and I've told him I'm unhappy and given him ultimatum but nothing changes.
I've recently retrained in a new career but have no money saved, nor does DH and we rent and cannot afford to support two houses. I have no family to turn to and feel so trapped. I want to leave and treat again but we just cannot afford it.

I don't know why I'm even posting as there is no solution

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MamaMumMama · 05/08/2018 00:19

Thanks You are thinking about this rationally which is a good thing. How long would it take you to get some savings behind you in the new job? You say you are more like friends, could you still live together but not be together so you can co-parent?

loosst · 05/08/2018 00:25

Thanks Mama. I guess it would take me a year to start saving and get some money behind me but then what? Even then we couldn't support two homes. Its just such a mess. I can't believe my life has ended up like this

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