Going to have hypnotherapy-how to tell do

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Back story - suffered bouts of depression for years now. Had counselling & CBT a couple of years ago,which helped massively. No depression now but still struggle with anxiety,most days.
Been with dh for 15 years,he has always been very supportive of my mh struggles but is firmly a non believer in alternative therapies.
After reading up/ researching about hypnotherapy, I have found an excellent hypnotherapist (expensive but highly recommended).
I truly believe this will help me to overcome my anxiety issues. I have been very pro active (so not just relying on this) in helping myself. I do yoga,meditation & mindfulness & whilst this helps,I still struggle.
I could just go & not tell him,but we have a really good relationship & I don't think this would sit well with me.
I should also say. I hide my anxiety issues very well,even from him & I don't think he knows how much of a problem it is for me everyday 🙁

To be honest I am the most cynical person when it comes to alternative therapies and think the majority are a load of nonsense, but personally I would not count hypnotherapy among them. Do you think your DH definitely would?

My friend found hypnotherapy quite challenging and stressful as it included reliving and thinking about childhood events. In the end it did help but she was regularly upset after her sessions - and hadn't suffered an abusive childhood etc.

If there's any chance you'd need support during or after the sessions, it might be better to tell your DH.

Difficult to say. I hope he'd be open minded about it & not discount it without looking into it more.
I do know he'd support me but I'm nervous about telling him. Not because he'd laugh or say I was mad,but just that I want him to be behind it as much as me & to be able to chat about it to him. To tell him I'm feeling better.
It's good to know how someone who doesn't particularly believe in alternative therapies thinks about hypnotherapy too,so thank you 😊

Peekyboo that's interesting & another vote for why I should tell him.
Even though he doesn't find talking about emotional things easy. He's been my rock through all my bad times & don't doubt he would support me again.
This is just setting my anxiety off again 🙁

Is the anxiety related to self esteem issues?
If it is, it may be more helpful initially at least, to address what those particular triggers are before embarking upon a series of hypnotherapy sessions.
Personally, I discovered (just through reading up on the subject) that my issues were grounded in poor self esteem and an inability to say no. After working on my lack of assertiveness then pushing myself to 'self talk', positively instead of negatively, I finally broke through the crippling anxiety - especially socially.
I'll never be the life and soul of a party but equally, I'm no longer a hyper sensitive wallflower.
There's some good reading material out there OP.

Just tell him you are going for some therapy he doesnt have to know all the details.

My anxiety isn't linked to self esteem,no.
Thinking back I've always had it. Only child,moved house multiple times,changing schools,was bullied. Fell in to shit relationships. The usual stuff.
I'm definitely prone to overthinking & being a pessimist. Can't relax or switch off easily.
So I'm sure hypnotherapy will help me with that.

What sort of hypnotherapy are you having? I had NLP and had a recording to listen to daily. It was expensive per session but only a few sessions - most of it is listening to the self-hypnosis recording. There should be no lasting distress after the session - even if you relive distressing events - as the distressing associated emotions are 'neutralised' during the session using various techniques. You should leave the session feeling as if you have had a good full body massage or a big fat spliff!

Also have you tried Headspace meditation? This teaches you to live with anxiety without being caught up in the associated emotions but to observe and ground in the breath rather than block, try to stop or overcome. Having an aim to overcome anxiety can exacerbate it!

Just tell him that you are going to a therapy session.
You aren't lying at all.
See how your first session goes and then take it from there.
If it's good then tell him about it when you get back.

Keepon that's good advice,thanks.
I've tried lots & lots of apps for meditation/mindfulness. I'm sure I've tried Headspace before,but will look at it again. Using Pacifica at the moment,which is quite good.

I'm a bit of a sceptic, but I tried hypnotherapy for something else. Seemed to work initially...about 3 weeks then I didn't find it effective.

Everyone's different though. I didn't tell DH as he would have probably laughed about it and thought I was foolish to spend money on it.

I was struggling with driving anxiety and was looking at hypnotherapy. I decided to try one of the hypnotherapy videos on YouTube as a last resort before seeing a hypnotherapist. I was cynical. One video made a massive difference to me and my anxiety halved overnight.

It is going back at least 10 years but I tried hypnotherapy. It didn't work for me. As much as I tried to listen to the person doing it I found myself wondering if I was ( for want of a better word) under . I tried to imagine everything he was suggesting for me to envisage but my mind was wandering all over the place. Would I try again ? No.

I paid £500 for the weightloss hypnotherapy about 6 years ago...waste of money....there were 2 of us and it didn't work for either of us....

I did hypnotherapy while pregnant to help manage a phobia that was affecting my pregnancy. I'm not due how much good it did (I was lazy and didn't do the homework) but she definitely did something. At the end of the first session, about 15 minutes, she asked me how long I'd been there for. I had stayed very aware all through, I thought 15 minutes seemed a bit rude so I said about half an hour. It was 90 minutes! So there was something going on...