Still friends with abuser...

[yiskasha]

Is it possible to remain friends with someone who sexually abused you?

Feeling very confused and hurt at the moment, and finding it hard to let go.

I think I need someone to just put things straight for me.

I'm really struggling.

I'm so sorry you have been abused.

One thing about abusers is that they confuse us. They can be very 'kind' and affectionate, also easy to talk to and maybe able to help us sort out little problems.

However that is their MO - gaining trust and confidence. They are still abusers.

Difficult though it may be for you, my belief is that you should cut off ties. Going to counselling will help you get through it and also open your eyes a bit more.

You'll come out the other side much stronger.

@Rebecca36 thank you for your response. It's still hard for me to think of him as an abuser. He was such a good friend to me, but you're absolutely right. Tomorrow I'm going to make some moves towards counselling. Thanks for all your advice and words everyone!

Take care