Realistic stories about life after divorce (3+ years)

[Kescilly]

Would anyone be interested in sharing updates on how they are doing long term after their divorce? I know every situation is different but I thought it might be helpful since a lot of us have been there.

My life is so different from what I could have imagined at the time and I’m sure others feel that way as well.

My life is pretty brilliant now! I had a very hard time groing through divorce (though I have heard and read much worse stories than my own) and it was honestly the toughest thing I have ever been through. It was hell emotionally, financially, physically. I wondered if it would ever get better....

Well it did! I had a bad relationship after it (too soon) but then was single for a while, got a new job, couple of promotions, my own house.....honestly things couldn't be any different to how low I felt at the time!

Divorced 6 years this month. Wow, how time flies. I was fine and dandy 3 minutes after I got divorced and into my own place with my DC, let alone 3 years! Life is what you make it, I was full of great plans about what I'd do when I was free, and I've pretty much done them, or am still ticking them off the list as I go. My advice, for what it's worth, is to see it as an exciting new chapter, not to dwell on the past. Easier said than done sometimes if you have to deal with shit from your Ex, which I did for a while. My only regret is not going it sooner.

Divorced ten years gone April.
Met new man ten years in July
Married for three
Life is good and better

Left 4 years ago, after 10 years in a relationship that went steadily downhill. When I left I was heavily in debt & being treated for severe depression. The upsides were that I had a temping job that was going well & I was able to rent a room from a friend.

And I'm flying. Two years off the ADs, debt-free, managed to turn the job into a career & renting a flat while I save for a deposit.

Life has never, ever been better.

Divorced for 4 years. Best decision I ever made. Love raising DS as a single parent. I date men on my terms. Not interested in another LTR.

OK so I'm not in the best financial position but everything else is brilliant. I just feel free.

Left him 4 years ago, divorced 18 months now. I have nearly finished renovating my new home. I’m happy, settled and more relaxed then I’ve been in years. The divorce was an emotional and financial strain also the best thing I could have done to myself. Ive met someone new and we are doing ok and it’s love

6 years after my life is better than I could have ever imagined. We had no kids do I haven't seen my shitty ex since the day we divorced. I'm remarried to an amazing guy with a cute kid.

Separated for 6 years, divorced for 4, getting married again in a couple of months. Spent the first couple of years after separation working out how abusive my first marriage was and sorting out unhappy kids, but it's turned out fine. I've now bought a new bigger house, kids have settled down and yep, am happy. I used to think that all relationships turned bad after a couple of years, because that's all I'd ever experienced, but it's not true! Men can be lovely! Who knew?

I've been divorced for 5yrs. At first it was like a rollercoaster of emotions, but not because I missed him or anything, it was just a massive shift in my life. I knew exactly what I wasn't going to tolerate and that scared me, because I didn't think I'd ever actually be able to be in a relationship again. Now, I am with the man that I believe I was always meant to be with. He is everything and more that I wanted and needed in a partner. So - I am doing great post divorce! Had to go through a process to get here, but even before I met my current partner, I was in a good place.