We need to talk - when to have the conversation

[Lovelyivy]

My husband and I had a conversation few months ago and he told me he doesn’t love me and doesn’t want to be with me in the future. Few months past and I need to know what’s happening with us(we are now doing great-being affectionate and spending time together).We are going on holidays in three weeks(I go first for two weeks just me and our son and then he joins me and our son for a last week). I’m thinking if I should have a conversation with him prior the holidays tell him to think about how he feels and that we talk and make final decision after holidays(so he would have time to think about it when me and my son are away-to see how the future would be without us). Or should I just wait after the holidays? I’m super scared as I love him so much, but I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t love me-so I need to know (I keep thinking about what he said every day). What would you do?

he told me he doesn’t love me and doesn’t want to be with me in the future

Why have you waited this long? Talk to him today. Stop living in limbo, must be horrid. Take back some control of the situation.

Why is he not with you the first week of hols? I have a horrible feeling he may not be joining you for the second week and may use the first week when you are away to actually leave. Sorry.

He is not joining me because I’m going home to spend time with my family (and then he is joining me - it was my idea to do this). The thing is I felt the same way about him few months back ...we got pregnant really quick into relationship and went through a lot of struggles together. Now our baby is one and everything is calming down. In the two years together we had to deal with visa issues, death in my family, not planned pregnancy, PND, him loosing job....so not typical sunshine and rainbows dating and relationship. We jumped into struggle after struggle after one month of dating...so I’m still having hope he was just confused and depressed (he said it after he was unsuccessfully looking for a job for two months...)

He also mentioned about month ago and that maybe we could get better place so our son has more space ...

You need to talk to him and just see is he feeling more positive about things now as it does sound like you have had a very hard time. If it feels like it is going better then it possibly is but speculation will drive you mad.

Thank you :) I’m still trying to stay positive but I’m preparing for worst. Now I’m just thinking when is the best time. I really want us to go on the holidays together stress free. I might just wait after(whats 2more months)