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Moving out. How do I do this? Would I be homeless?

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totoromama · 03/08/2018 10:07

I know this is my fault but please be gentle.
I am an alcoholic and have been sober with some lapses since November. I have 2 children and a dh. We have ss involved and are on a child protection plan due to my drinking. I have been getting help and things have generally been improving slowly. Obviously my eldest dd is v angry about everything and blames me for everything. She's been getting worse with me. She pushed me over a couple of weeks ago and I fell over and hurt my ankle I had to go to A&E. Now if I do anything she disagrees with she says I've been drinking when I haven't and tells the social worker.
Yesterday she had a hospital appointment and told the doctor I was drunk. I wasn't I offered to have blood test/breathalysed but they wouldn't do it. So they phoned ss. I called dh and he came to get us. Sw is coming round today and she's implyed that I might need to move out.
Talking it over with dh we've agreed that I should move out.
Would I be classed as homeless as I have no money, I don't work and no where to stay?
He said he'll pay a deposit and 1 month rent for a bedsit for me then I can pay via benefits. I don't know how to go about getting anywhere.
Everything is soo messed up.
Can anyone help or advise? Help!!

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Butterflykissess · 03/08/2018 10:49

Yeh I reckon you will be seen as making yourself intentionally homeless as its through your own fault. Just look for somewhere that accepts DSS. Not easy though.

hellsbellsmelons · 03/08/2018 11:00

If the SW is suggesting it then ask them what the next steps are as you have no money.
Could you get a job?
Is there a reason you can't work?
Could you get a live in job somewhere. A pub etc...?

hellsbellsmelons · 03/08/2018 11:01

Sorry!!!! That was mega insensitive. Not a pub!
But look into other live-in jobs.

Or maybe start your own little business.
Dog walking, pet sitting, cleaning, ironing.....

totoromama · 03/08/2018 11:04

I would apply for jobs and take anything. I need to move out in the next few weeks. I can't walk much at the moment and will be on crutches for another couple of weeks.

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