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Am I being too picky?

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missright · 01/06/2007 10:02

I've been single for around 5 years, after numerous crap relationships I decided to be more choosy about who I got with, I worked on my own self, my confidence, my career, finances etc and so now I am in a very independant position, I rent a lovely 3 bedroomed house and I have a decent car and a healthy bank account...I'm far from "loaded" but I'm comfortable, I wanted to be like this so that I never felt like I needed anyone again and it's been great so far.

Anyway recently I decided that I am ready to give another relationship a go, due to my work I don't get much chance to meet people so I joined an online dating site but it seems that there is nobody on there that I would want to be involved with.

I am looking for someone a bit older than me with a decent job (not bothered about the money but a decent job shows that he's motivated at least) and who wants to enjoy life...all I've come across is boring people! for instance one guy who who a uni lecturer but he didnt seem interested in anything, "had had enough of travelling" etc (travelling is important to me), another bloke who still lived with his parents...am I asking for too much? all I want is a normal independant bloke that I can have a laugh with, travel with etc...are all online things like this?

OP posts:
lou33 · 01/06/2007 10:07

it's not a lot to ask but it seems so hard to find

zizou · 01/06/2007 10:19

not asking for too much but maybe meeting someone through a shared hobby would mean you are more likely to find someone with your va va voom.....would that be possible?

DivaSkyChick · 01/06/2007 10:51

Hang in there! You've done a great job on yourself, don't sell out now. Stay active in your search but keep your expectations high. You should be really proud of where you are right now. Try to stay positive and open and like Zizou said, look into hobbies, clubs, etc where you could meet men with similar interests.

millie865 · 01/06/2007 12:31

hang on in there! I didn't have much luck with on line dating, and eventually met DH by chance, but I think the on line stuff got me in the right frame of mind so I was able to see him as a potential partner when I met him if that makes sense?

Perhaps it would be worth looking at a different site? or speed dating, or dinner dates.... Different things attract different people. If you've got a strong interest in something there may be a dating site that specialises in your thing - I think there are environmental dating agencies, political dating agencies, arts lovers dating agencies. A couple of people I know have had a good response on my single friend dot com - people have to be put on by a friend so you know anyone you meet has at least one friend!

Good luck!

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