Do you ever dislike your DH?

[cpjoli]

Just that really.

Is it normal for me to dislike him and want to leave ?

Yes, it is normal to have all kinds of emotions about someone you spend a large proportion of your time with.
Is there something specific that’s causing you to dislike him? How long have you felt this way?

Yes, really dislike my husband at the moment. He's a condescending, nagging wanker who needs to get off my case. But then I get home and he is cute for 20mins. Think I'm annoying him too, we're both stressed at work and it'll pass.

Yep! I think it's normal if it's at a low level, it usually passes!

My dh is the most lovely big hearted supportive man you could hope to meet, and I REaLLY dislike him often.

My lovely DH died at the age of 36. I never once felt I disliked him and I’ve missed him every day of the 26 years since then.
Cherish your husbands - you never know when they’ll be taken from you.
(Unless they’re abusive, obviously, in which case ltb asap!)

Erm yes. But I left him. And he'll be my ex husband next year.

I think it's completely normal to be annoyed with people you live with - it's hard spending all your time with someone else!

But outright dislike over a long period of time? No, I don't think that's normal.

Most of the time he's lovely but he has a nasty streak which I really don't like. He's annoyed me this morning and I'm sat here thinking maybe I'm better off on my own. But then I know i absolutely adore him the majority of the time and can't imagine life with out him .
So confused.

Sorry to those I've offended.

It depends if you dislike him all of the time or just on occasion. I disliked my husband 100% of the time, so left him.

Ah, DH doesn't have a nasty streak though, the dislike is more things like putting things next to the dishwasher instead of inside it sort of thing, definitely no nastiness.

What is is that's upsetting you OP?

Every now and again, but it's only because I feel like I do everything in the house. So it kind of bugs me that I don't get any support there (cleaning).
In hindsight he works full time with a manual job, is an excellent dad, makes me laugh everyday, cooks most nights and washes up. I just wish he'd push the bloody hoover round every now and again. We have 2 young children and I'm trying to run my own business and keep on top of general household duties. So yes he does get on my tits sometimes but I wouldn't swap him.

Oh and regardless if we have an argument (rare) or not I get a cup of tea brought to bed every morning- he's up earlier than me most days as he takes the dog out in the morning. Maybe I should give him some slack with the hoovering

He made a comment about my ds which I didn't like then stropped off to work. He hates the fact I get 6 weeks off andvhe has no holiday left. I understand why but I wish he'd let it go !!
He can be very bitchy and will throw stuff back in my face even months after they've happened.

I love my dp very much but yes I also strongly dislike him from time to time. I suspect the same of him.

We are after all only human

Yes!

But there are many more good days than bad and he is my absolute rock.

No I don’t think so. Don’t think I’ve ever really disliked mine. Certainly never had thoughts of leaving him!

Ah I've cross posted there sorry.

Bringing stuff from arguments from months ago, unless relevant, really isn't on.

The sort of thing I mean is him texting me to tell his mother when I'm leaving to drop ds off at hers (like would be rude enough not to) and leaving his dirty underwear in front of the microwave instead of in the washing machine (which is directly beneath the microwave)

About 16 hours a day I dislike him, the other 8 I'm asleep.
I'm divorcing him soon.

wouldn't say I ever dislike him but god, he can bug the hell out of me at times.

Yes, he is beyond irritating! He is also a nice, kind man and a good dad, so at the moment, I stay, but constantly think about leaving, which is exhausting.

Yes definitely especially when he lies to me I start to resent things but I won’t break up a family over it he has good points but lying is my bug bear and my not trusting him annoys the hell out of me but it’s not enough to break up my dc life as they know it.

Cpjoli - are we married to the same man?

Yes - since I’ve been pregnant I’ve gone to new levels!

Yes, of course. I suspect he dislikes me some of the time too. I have also disliked each of my dc at various times. When you spend a lot of time with someone, and you know they love you come what may, then you tend to relax your guard a bit and let all emotions come out.

yup, he annoys the hell out of me quite often, usually at a low level. Nothing major just lots of niggling things, but he's a good enough dad so I've not binned him.....yet.