Partner has worked hard in his field since he was 15 is now on a really good wage. I’ve just started out on the career ladder so am really on a low pay grade. I own half the house as had loads of inheritance to be able to pay for half. Partner and I share the mortgage but he pays 3/4 of it compared to me. At the end of the month he is left with considerably more money than me. He spends this on his car and saves a lot for a new kitchen. My friends all think that this is un fair and he should pay for everything and me nothing. I hate being a kept woman I like being able to spend my own money. We have discussed money and when we have kids or if billls get more expensive it will change. We discussed putting all our money into the joint account and having a card each to spend as we like once we have kids. My friends seem to think it’s so unfair that he gets to spend thousands on a car all the time and I can’t spend that kind of money. In my opinion it’s his money he’s worked hard for it I wil admit I’ve been lazy when it comes to a career or school. I don’t see why I should be untitled to his money. I’m never out of pocket I am able to save my wage and for context have more savings than him. I’m actually getting fed up of my friends thinking that he’s not nice because he chooses not to buy me everything. For us it’s very 50/50 he may pay for an expensive dinner but then I might get the next one which might be a Nando’s or trip to the cinema. My birthdays also this week and they keep saying what’s he getting you where’s he taking you. I’ve asked for one small thing and we might go see his mum and go to a really posh restaurant in London but apparently that’s not enough. I really feel sorry for my single friends who wonder why they can’t get a guy when they expect him to do everything.