eharmony - is it worth it?

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Hi. Have just gone through the rigmarole of the eharmony joining/matching process, only to encounter the payment options at the end (wish dating sites were more upfront about these at the start). It seems quite steep - anyone out there who would happily recommend it ... or not?!
Please feel free to come back to me with other options too. Have already tried Match, POF, OkCupid (hated that one) and Soulmates (which also proved a waste of time, as I'm not in London).
Of all of these, Match was my preferred site, but I got fed up of seeing the same faces, so wanted a fresh start elsewhere.
I thought about Zoosk too, but not sure. I should add that my mobile is a brick, so I can't do any of the app based sites. Desktop only please!
In the first instance, it would be great to hear about your eharmony experience, as it takes quite a long time to register.
Many thanks.

I didn't get on with eHarmony at all, but then my tastes are somewhat non-aligned with the 'fall in love, get married, have babies' shtick that it seems to promulgate.

Basically, it felt like the NetMums of dating sites. And they charged a fecking fortune, yes.

I have just deleted my profile, as I don't seem to have come across anyone in RL who raves about it / has had a positive outcome.

It's a pity you don't have an up-to-date phone. I found Bumble to be very effective.

Yes, I should really upgrade.
Thanks for your replies :)

My friend had success on Happn. But you'd need a decent phone.

:)

Definitely not. This is probably the same for most dating sites but after the initial plethora of potential matches it dwindles to a handful a week if you're lucky. I live 10 miles from a major UK city but all my compatible matches were over 30 miles away. If I complained about the lack of matches I was told to be less strict on my criteria I often got rematches with men I'd blocked (you have to block as no option to just not want them to be on your matches list iyswim). I got updates from matches I'd never seen in my matched list. And then there are the totally unsuitable men I actually dated: the ex-priest who was a controlling narcissist who I suspect wouldn't have accepted me saying no to sex for much longer (after 2 weeks) and still wanted to be a priest; the guy who reverted every conversation back to sex and was still living with his stbexw and she told him the children were upset he was dating so that was the end of that as he wasn't ready for a relationship. Shame because he was good fun on dates. The great sounding guy who turned up for our date and showed himself to be sexist, ageist, hated his kids, hated his parents, was rude, arrogant and sat there biting his nails before declaring he had to get home to do his kids' washing. He had included in his profile what a family orientated man he was with great respect for his parents And then the guy who I thought was everything I'd be searching for who turned out to be an abusive, manipulative man child. I reported them all and was told the site had taken "appropriate action against their account." I guess that means banned. So rest assured those guys aren't out there anymore on that site! I've since stopped dating as I seem to attract abusive men and after an abusive marriage I'm not taking that risk again. I'm happy on my own.

If you've signed up then give it a go but don't get your hopes up. Many accounts are inactive so you'll send a smile or a message and it will go unanswered because of that. Towards the end of your subscription you're likely to get a sudden influx of matches to entice you to extend it. Don't fall for that.
Sorry to be so negative! Maybe I just had a bad experience of the site. A friend of mine met his wife via Match so it does work for some! Check out the dating thread as lots of experience on there. Good luck!

Sorry, just seen your update. Good decision!

Jesus perverse, what a shower of absolute nutjobs!

And whilst I do believe that every dating site will have its share of bad AND good, it does sound like I'm not missing out on much!

I have a friend who had success on there .A family member married someone from Match.com. Have heard horror stories from Tinder and POF

Nope. I cancelled after couple of days and got refunded. They give like 5 matches (all far away) and then add like 1-2 a day.. it was rubbish.

I met my fiance on mysinglefriend and have two friends who met their now husbands on there!

Definitely upgrade, so you’ve got a choice of free apps. I like Bumble and Tinder and have met nice people on both. I like that we have to match before messaging. I tried others like match and POF and found I was just getting weird messages from people I would never choose.

I only paid for a subscription on eharmony as I found a decent discount code. I'd been regretting wasting my money though as nothing was coming of it. I've been getting new matches every day but the vast majority are miles away. Though in last couple of days I've been chatting with someone living close by, that looks promising for a meet up. That's about the only action I've had from the site though to be honest. I had a few chats start up from bumble but didn't like the 'pressure' of having to initiate stuff (though I know that's the whole point of that site, to be in control).