1st post but not a troll I promise :)

[Whatusernamecanihave]

Going to keep it short just want some opinions please, not drip feeding or going into detail :)

A) WhatsApp between husband and group of friends contains funny videos, bit of porn, and general banter regarding stag dos exercise and stuff

B) instragram message group set up same group of friends, basis seems to be sharing photos of women they’ve taken a liking to on instagram

What would you do say something or just leave them to it? Don’t want to be THAT wife but the photos from Instagram have annoyed me a bit (and made me feel a bit shit because I am no where near what my husband is liking :(

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So what if you were ? Would that be ok ????

The instagram thing is a bit ott . However the wattsapp thing. I go to football a lot which is a mostly male circle. I would say the majority (not all obviously) are on wattsapp groups where all sorts are shared. Some revolting. Some funny. Some weird etc. Some gets sent to me as it happens (not out and out porn ) but funny or shocking videos. It’s quite normal in a lot of circles. Doesn’t mean it’s right. Just saying it’s quite a common thing on wattsapp. The Instagram thing perhaps not

I would not like this.

Just a load of big kids really, aren't they? I can't see that there's any real harm in it. Just showing off aren't they? Does your dh measure up to what you really like? Does he look like Aiden Turner?

Don’t want to be THAT wife but the photos from Instagram have annoyed me a bit (and made me feel a bit shit because I am no where near what my husband is liking

No doubt the ‘cool’ people will be along to tell you that it’s all perfectly natural. How the poor menz are just having fun, bla bla.

Personally, I think they show a complete lack of respect for women and I’ve no time for men that treat women as if they are just an object to lust over.

I wouldn't be OK with that & I would make my feelings clear.

I think your husband needs to grow up, sounds like he is 15!

That would really hurt me but also wouldn't want to be with a man who objectifies women that way either. I don't think it is ok or just "boys being boys". I think is disrespectful and a bit disgusting.

Nope - no cool. It seems very childish and disrespectful on many levels.

Not ok! I would be miffed too OP, for all the reasons. (More the objectification/ commodification of women than any feeling of not measuring up)

Thank you for validating my feelings nice to see people share my opinions and I’m not being THAT wife 😂 xxx

Needing advice on dating a man who wife pasted away 2 years ago ..

I have friends who have chats like this. Im also part of the group (as is DP). It gets a bit of an eye roll from me, but I dont care that DP is in the group (obviously that would be hypocritical). Out of the people in the group (probably 8-12, not sure) its always the same 1/2/3 doing the immature stuff. If DP started joining in Id be pretty because its a bit "sad" (and weird) really. Would lose a lot of respect from me. Nothing less attractive than seeing someone lolling over someone pathetically. Its embarassing

If the insta group is expressly for sharing images of attractive women thats very fucking weird. If it is just a group and thafs what the others are doing a lot of...meh. Is DH contributing or "an innocent bystander"?

Ok, I have tried so often to imagine a group of women sharing similar but of men and I just can’t.
Why is it ok for men to objectify women to this degree?

The more I hear about this type of behaviour the more I actually worry about the world my daughters and sons are facing.