I need a male point of view please on a relationship.
So 4 months ago I met a guy on a dating site, we hit it off, he was doing all the right things sayin all the right things. We had had a talk about exclusively dating which we agreed to.a month in I went out of town for a weekend with my friends and while I was away he dated another girl who he had been talking to alongside me the whole time. They met, he invited her back, she couldn't so he went home.he let her down gently a few days after by sayin he didn't wanna get involved with anyone. When I got back I knew something was different and asked if there was something as I could sense it. He lied to my face on a few occasions about it,which since he has said was to protect us, he didn't want to lose me. I didn't find out he had lied until a month on from the date and was obviously hurt and upset. I have been and still am 100% committed to him.
He still claims he went on the date because that's the dating game. Now what I have a problem with is am I just something to do until he finds what he is looking for, or can I trust that I am what he wants now and through insecurity with me being away he did a stupid thing. I'm now struggling to trust him and what his intentions are with me as he was telling me I was the only one back then when I clearly wasnt. We've been together 4 months now and it's been rocky the last month, iv got a bit paranoid. he also messaged a friend of his x saying he missed her everyday 2 months in, said his girl mate is really fit and has commented on my friends before too. Is he a total jerk or just a bit stupid and possibly a bit immature?were both 34. Help and advice please.