EA neighbour puts me on edge

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I’ve posted time and time again about my neighbour.
He’s an alcoholic and all round horrible person.
He’s so so emotionally abusive to his wife.
He’s currently in the garden and I hear him hollering “where the fuck are you” aimed at his wife. It literally makes me shake as I’ve been in his wives position before.
He’s screaming “you fucking clean this up” and “thanks for making this mess you slag” and “fucking thank you dear for creating so much work for me”
I don’t think it’s physical and I don’t want to get involved. General consensus on here is to not report as it will make it worse and it’s purely verbal.
She never argues back and just does as she told.
As soon as I hear him start I just panic.
Hate living next to him and I’m sure his wife hates it too.
Just don’t know what to do.
At the point now that I know he’s coming come and when I hear his car pull up my stomach sinks

Just wish there was someone he could be reported to.
There should be a kind of police for domestic abuse.
Police won’t be interested in verbal abuse.
He’s now mowing the lawn screaming “you’ve left this runny dog shit you fucking slag. Get here and pick it up you whore”
Vile vile man.

And I know it’s the least of his wives problems, but my 2 preschoolers have to play in the garden listening to his vile language and venom.
Don’t want them to think it’s acceptable.

Jesus. Could you record him and take it to the police to see what can be done? Or the council? Isn’t that anti-social behaviour? Teenagers get ASBOs for behaving like that!

I just don’t know how to tackle it.
I’ve seen a complaint form for noisy neighbours.
Perhaps I should fill that in.
It will be so obvious it’s come from me though as we only moved in a few months ago.

Did you try the police?

No. But I work alongside police officers on some occasions. They have said they don’t attend for verbal arguments unless there are threats being made or public order offences on the street.

There should be an adult protection team in your local council. You can phone them with your concerns.

Will look up adult protection team.
I’m just really worried these rows will escalate. They’ve got worse in the few months we’ve been here.
He’s going to end up being physical one of these days I’m sure of it.

Likely cut backs.
A few years ago I lived near a real nasty fucker who I reported often, saying that he did smash the house up luckily not his DW.
The police would get someone the knock.

Could you record him and take it to the police to see what can be done? Or the council? Isn’t that anti-social behaviour? Teenagers get ASBOs for behaving like that!
Honestly, don't bother doing any of these things.

No offence @Cawfee by the Police won't take any notice or even if they do come and talk to you about it, they won't take any action.

As for the council, count yourself as being very lucky that you have never had extremely anti-social neighbours and found out just how pointless councils and supposed "anti-social behaviour teams" actually are.

I just don’t know how to tackle it.
I’ve seen a complaint form for noisy neighbours.
Perhaps I should fill that in
I used to think that because there are EH and ASB teams at the council and because "noisy neighbour forms" exist, that there was a process whereby councils would enforce the law and ensure that people who inflicted ASB on their neighbours would be dealt with.

The worst part of the whole process is when you suddenly realise that actually nothing is going to be done about ASB.

Up to that point, you have hope that eventually something will be done and then that hope is gone.

Then you also realise that you have wasted a lot of time and energy on trying to get these issues resolved.

So my advice to you is that unless you want to waste your time and energy, don't even bother.

Maybe try and speak to her when she's on her own?

Wow. Didn’t realise that little was done about ASB.
He’s loud in every sense of the way too, loud voice, loud dogs, loud music, loud arguments.
Maybe moving house is the best option. And I’m being semi-serious. At the end of my tether and only a few months in.

I've read several of your threads about your neighbor. I don't have any advice, but I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this! He sounds awful! I would be an anxious wreck if I had to listen to him every night

I name change weekly just for privacy really! But glad you’ve read my rants and thank you for sympathising!

I'm with Cricrichan, see if you can have a word with her when he's out of the house. Let her know that there is support out there, Womens Aid etc. and that she doesn't have to live like that. He sounds absolutely horrendous

I’ve never seen her on her own unfortunately.
We are neighbours but our houses are each on the corner of a junction so her house is actually a different road name.
But our gardens are side onto each other still if that makes sense.

Wow. Didn’t realise that little was done about ASB
Neither did I.

I think it is absolutely disgusting that ASB is not taken seriously as it can have a really significant effect on the lives of the people wo are subjected to it.