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I think I've hit a crossroads

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slothsaremyspiritanimals · 31/07/2018 10:39

Hello all.

NC so I'm not outed.
Need a rant. And help.

Been with DH for best part of 14 years, married for 8. 4 DC. Both early 30s.

For the last 4 years marriage has been getting worse.

He made us move 200 miles away from everyone to "work on it". And it hasn't made a difference.

We don't speak unless it's about the kids.

No physical contact for years. (Not even hugs/kisses).

Spends all the money coming in and complains and tantrums if he doesn't get his own way.

Complains that he has to "babysit" his own DC if I need to go somewhere without them.

I am beginning to despise him.

He has now accused me of having an affair with my best friend (male). Myself and said friend speak everyday, lots in common, soulmates in a friends way. And have always said if we weren't both married /met a different time etc we might of.
(Like to say I wouldn't have an affair)

I don't know what to do for the best as I can't live like this anymore. I'm now away from all of my friends, stuck with someone I don't like, lonely and touch starved. I can feel myself getting lower and lower and can't go on like this.
I've tried to get him to leave before but he won't.

Thanks all

OP posts:
slothsaremyspiritanimals · 31/07/2018 17:53

Any advice appreciated 😁

OP posts:
ExploryRory · 31/07/2018 17:56

Is there any way you can take DC and go back to your original area? Someone you could stay with for a bit? It’ll be easier starting over with that support, plus you’re then removing the power over the situation from him.

slothsaremyspiritanimals · 31/07/2018 17:58

I have a lot of friends back home but don't know if they could.
I know they would support me emotionally etc.
Thank you. X

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