My STBEX (we never married so just ex p) prides himself on being a nice person, but is an absolute arsehole to me. He’s nice when he thinks he can win me around / manipulate me, but gets angry in an instant as soon as he senses it isn’t working, or if I dare to criticise anything he does. He gaslights and even started doing it to the children until I pulled him up on it, then he denied it of course.
Most people dislike him. He has ‘banter’ but it’s really just putting people down and making them feel small.
He wants a lump sum of money if he is to agree to leave - I don’t have money to give him, we are in debt.
He gambled constantly for a 6 month period and lied constantly to my face. Kept asking for more money as he’d supposedly overspent on family things, when he’d really lost it gambling. Overall lost 7k no only admitted it when I pretended I had proof. Gets defensive when I bring it up now.
Is impatient with the children but on the other hand will play with them when he’s in a good mood.
Constantly bringing home chocolate, biscuits and crisps for them even though I’ve asked him to stop.
Makes snidey remarks about my family.
Plays dad of the year when we aren’t getting on. Almost like he’s trying to prove a point.
Has tried to make me feel like insane. Has told my mum he thinks I’m bipolar. I’m not, I had some post natal anxiety and depression, that’s it.
It’s all these smaller things that add up and I hate him. He’s such a hypocrite. He thinks he’s amazing. I need him to go but I don’t know how to get him to leave. I don’t want to be his enemy as he has a really nasty streak.