I’ve been with my partner for almost two years now and a year ago I found out he’d been sexting with other women on social media. Obviously I was devastated and I now have some trust issues when it comes to him and other women.
Now the current issue is making me feel like I’m completely insane. He has a female friend who he’s known for years. He says she is his best friend. At first I got on really well with her but when we hit a rough patch he decided to have his nights out with her as ‘his time’. Which I get and I have no problem with. I’m not jealous of their friendship or her but being cut out of it made me feel like crap. Now a couple of weeks ago I caught him messaging her asking her to find him a future wife while she was out. He said it was a joke but obviously not something you want to see. She’s also lied and said I messaged her about him when I found out about him going out with her one night. We went out for his birthday and I didn’t want to go because I knew it she was there I’d sau something to annoy him and he’d kick off. Which it did because he is so defensive of her. Now the truth is up until recently I don’t know how much of what he says she says is true or if he is playing a game with me in some narcissistic style. He’s
Told me if I message her he’s leaving and then I’m in a mess as I’m trying to save for a
House deposit. So I can’t tell her how I’m feeling about things.
Things got really bad a couple of weeks ago when he told me he was at the pub with her then I later found out he’d been at a place I’d been asking him to go for months and he hadn’t wanted to. He said they both lied because he knew it would bother me. And rEcently she asked him if he found her friend attractive. Which again I feel weird about.
I’m trying to work on our relationship and make things better but it’s hard when there’s so many lies. 😔
I feel like I’m going insane.