DP in a bad place

[amilosingitor]

I don't know what to do. I'm due our first baby together any day now. He's at breaking point. I don't know what's going on in his head and he won't talk to me. His mum told me he had a meltdown this morning and sobbed and sobbed, which breaks my heart. I just don't know how to help.

You can't help if you don't know what's wrong. And we can't help either. Does his mum know what the problem is?

You're having a baby at any moment so you are going to need to focus on you. Will he go and see a doctor? Can his mum tell him to?

I think his mum needs to get him to the doctor asap. Do you live together? Can you or his mum call the doctor and ask them to come out if he refuses to go - explain that you are due any minute and he is at crisis point.

My first thought was that maybe he gas lost his job and doesn't want to tell you this close to delivery. Does he have mh issye prior to this?

We live together with our children but are currently staying with his parents temporarily. He's never been one to cope with his feelings that's for sure, and I don't think anything in particular has set him off. It's just everything. He's full of hate. This morning it was a row with his ex about his daughter as far as I know. There's just no thing to him. He knows he needs help but won't get it. Is the sort to turn immediately to drinking if something angers him and then gets himself in a state and treats everyone like shit etc etc. He knows what he is doing but it's like he can't stop himself. I don't think he will go to the doctors either. It's horrible seeing how sad he is. He doesn't cry and I guess I'm in shock that he sobbed today. I do need to focus on me, and selfishly I'm angry that the memory of the birth of our baby won't be a happy one because he just isn't happy, although I get that's not his fault. I suffer with my mental health so know only too well how it feels, the difference is I guess that when I'm down it's him and our children that makes me happy....but he's not the same as me.

He sounds flaky and selfish tbh. It is not on to get angry, drink and refuse help when his behaviour impacts on other people.
Can you and the kids move out of his parents house? You are quite vulnerable being there and not in your own place.

@IWannaSeeHowItEnds our relationship has certainly had its ups and downs. He is selfish. Hugely so. I'm just not a believer in turning my back on someone when they are so lost. It's a horrible position to be in. I'm not in a position to leave here even if I wanted to which is difficult at times

I don't want to pry, but I think you might just have to detach from him emotionally, concentrate on the children and focus on getting a plan together so you can get your own place asap. Maybe talk to Womens Aid and the council because his moods are not a good environment for your children.