I and my boyfriend was invited to a wedding, that's coming up very soon. It's my cousin getting married. I don't know him very well but I'm close his mother (my aunty).
My mother was invited too.
I rsvp'd and accepted the invitation.
I don't want to go anymore. You see I'm running into my problems with my mother.
I think the plan was my boyfriend was going to pick me up and my mother was going to get a lift too. Something like that.
The problem with my mother is that back in April she wanted to start finding an outfit for the wedding. She had a look a look through a clothing catalogue in the house. Settled on a dress that came with a jacket.
My mother doesn't know how to use the internet. Her mobile phone is very basic so, no internet there. She doesn't have a bank account either and so no card for online shopping.
Anyways, I decided to help my mother and check for her. Big, big, big mistake. This has turned into months of nesr harassment. The shop was out of stock with her size and other sizes too. So, she had me checking back a few days later and very regularly since then too. Eventually, I put my mind to use and thought the shop isn't going to stock this again and I suggested that to my mother. Otherwise only that, I emailed them and got a vague, open reply saying to check back again in 28 days or something.
There was one instance where I checked online during a particular weekend. I went into work and my day and schedule in work was very long and intense. I came home after a 12 hour stint in work, just for my mother to ask me to check again for the dress. If it was up to my mother, I wouldn't have been allowed a cup of tea. I bad to tell her very firmly - no - that I was in work all day, and that I was tired and I was too tired tired for dinner. My dinner was a cup of tea. We checked at the weekend and it wasn't there.
There has been many instances where my mother was on my back over that dress. I reckon there was an element of control from her. Just to apply pressure to me.
Jus yesterday evening, I sat down, checks again, same story - it wasn't there. Eventually, she settled on something else.
Breath - dress all done. I woke this morning to more demands from my mother.
She now wants shoes to go with the dress. Not only shoes, she wants a jacket and a handbag. She wants everything to match up.
. She has a room full of clothes built up from the years. Three wardrobes in her room and boxes too. She has so many clothes, shoes and bags. If she was to go rooting she would be able to manage to out something together. She's always requesting for shoes and I bought her shoes (black sandles) last year. They would go with the dress. Accoi to her, no they won't.
She has a black jacket that would probably go down to her bum in length. No, not good enough, she's wants a short black jacket.
She wants a matching handbag. There's blue in the dress and she would like the handbag to pick up in that blue.
Good grief. My head is about to explode in anger and rage. I didn't even have a spoonful of breakfast down my mouth this morning and she started at me.
I don't earn a a huge wage and I'm not loaded. She said she would pay me back but going from the past, she might pay 5 there or 10 there. That's not good enough when online shopping takes money out from my account straight away. She worms her way out from delivery costs too and expects me to pick that part up whatever that would be eg 3.99, 4.99, 5.99.
She's bang out of order here. She wants a dress, a jacket and shoes and a bag all to match.
How come I missed this fashion ship? I dont have a lot of clothes. I never wore dresses until recently so there's very few in my wardrobe but even at that, I can put and outfit together without the need to go and hit the shops.
I want to pull out from going to this wedding, with the way my mother is. She has my head absolutely fcuking wrecked.